2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
- Well, of course, it's easy for you to say, how lucky you are with your husband !!
- You're lucky, you have a car, you don't need to drag along minibuses …
- Of course, I would also be successful with the peasants with such a figure, you're lucky.
- Lucky you, your mother is sitting with children, not like mine …
- Lucky you, you have your own business, and I'm dragging on this damn job all the time!
And other "Lucky you" …
Do you hear that from time to time? Or maybe you say so? Stop doing that. Please …
Perhaps it seems to you that you are giving a compliment, like what kind of husband you have, finally, handsome. And in fact…
Of course you are jealous. Well, okay, we all envy, but to admit the guts are thin.
But most importantly, you devalue the result. Human labor on the way to it. His personal merits. His responsibility for all this
And when you say so to yourself - I was lucky with my relationship, with my mother, with a figure, with work … Or I was not lucky with my character, with an apartment, with a child, with neighbors …
You do the same to yourself.
You castrate your responsibility
Rusty scissors.
What kind of deity is Luck?
Has it created you luck, happiness, achievement, success, relationships? Or overlooked when some kind of collapse or disappointment befell you?
I don’t deny that there are cool, awesome opportunities and circumstances, even if we call them “Luck”. And then everything is in your hands. You either see this opportunity and grab it by the tail, or you do not notice, you say that it is not for you, or you are looking for a catch.
Lucky you grab onto opportunities?
Unlucky to be cowardly?..
Or here. The situation is the same.
*** University graduates on the threshold of a new life. One looking for acquaintances where to attach his Jo and receive a salary. After all, you can get a normal job only by acquaintance! Drinks pivas 3 times a week and grinds during the crisis. There is still no work, the belly is growing - of course, no luck.
***BUT second works part-time for the sake of experience, and then he looks for clients, creates his own case from successful projects, simultaneously sends his resume to a bunch of companies. Goes to the gym 3 times a week and doesn't watch TV.
And now his clients recommend him and he works for himself, not needing part-time jobs or the patronage of friends. Lucky, definitely lucky.
*** The third married the most beautiful girl of the course and went abroad with her. Lucky.
And the fact that he courted her for 3 years, sought her attention and love, this is behind the scenes. The way he worked in parallel with his studies and found a job over the hill himself, thanks to his projects and merits, does not matter. He was just lucky, now he is fattening in his Europe.
Luck…
When you explain all other people's buns solely by luck, it's not so bad.
And you do not see your merits, thinking that you are lucky. But nichrome like that. All your victories, merits, pleasant trifles are all your doing.
A good husband - the wife chose him herself and constantly worked on herself for the sake of improving relations. She learned to cook borscht or mastered the technique of exotic blowjob. She kisses him when she meets him too. Hope.
A good wife is a beauty - the husband compliments her and she blooms, the tone takes her to restaurants and she is grateful, the husband gives her gifts and kisses her in the morning. She praises her borscht, even when it is not perfect.
You guys just got lucky with each other! Pfff …
But the neighbor's couple was unlucky, the wife is always dissatisfied, fat and in a greasy dressing gown, hands on hips and yelling, and the drunken peasant pinches in the corners. They were out of luck, yeah. It was not they who chose to behave that way, these are all "circumstances."
There are all kinds of circumstances. But only you can decide what to do with them. Or not
Yes. All people have a different starting position.
One girl was born a long-legged beauty, the second - a squat bedside table.
But they themselves decide what to do with what is given by nature.
And it's not just the figure and appearance here.
You can be damn well-groomed and charming without having a perfect face. You can be a disgusting habalka with dirty hair and unpainted roots, having ideal body proportions and violet eyes in a pollice.
You can get fat or lose weight, swing your ass or sit it on the couch, go to a beauty salon or hell with him and so it will do. This is already a matter of choice, not luck.
I was recently told that if there is no money, then it is impossible to go to fitness. Probably unlucky, and there is no money, and there is no way for fitness.
But again, it's not a matter of luck or impossibility. Home fitness does not require money at all, and even less luck.
It requires choice and action.
No money - okay, no luck. If you have money, you're lucky. Nooo … Even if the money is won in the lottery, you buy a lottery ticket first.
You decide if you will have money, acquaintances, opportunities, sex and an awesome figure.
Your task is to bring the moment of this choice into awareness more often
A lot of small decisions that are simply made without having time to realize - like go to training today or not, have a fight with your spouse or not, drink half a liter of vodka or not, eat a half-liter on the sly, or enjoy a bite.
These small, everyday decisions determine the vector - "lucky" for you or not
And it is very important to celebrate your achievements.
"It was I who worked on myself and lost weight."
“It was I who mastered new skills, did not coward and created my own business”
Or vice versa.
"I was the one who ate buns at night, skipped workouts and recovered."
“I was waiting for the right moment to start a business, but I got cold feet and never started.”
When you understand that it is you who are responsible for your victories and failures, you can control them. More consciously, no matter how sick already from this word.
When you are in charge of your life, it stops happening to you.
You stop pushing everything to lucky - unlucky. You stop measuring other people's achievements by luck, and your failures by bad luck.
It's simple, that's why no one wants to do this))
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Well, what are your "lucky" you now assign yourself
And what is your relationship with luck and achievement?
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