2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How often do you meet people who complain about life? I think every day …
I'm talking about people - "children" or "victims". Such people usually talk about their own life that everything is wrong: there is no money, the husband is bad, the wife is a bitch, there is no work, I get sick all the time … well, in general, everything does not go well …
And if you ask such a person, what is wrong, why does this happen? Do you know what they will answer you? I have such a fate, there is no luck, luck does not accompany, God does not give … or even worse, he will blame relatives, friends, acquaintances … And these people sincerely believe in what they say. It is very difficult for them to take responsibility for what is happening in their life, since they are in the position of a child. Through illness, they receive, or at least try to receive - warmth, love, attention, which they did not receive in childhood. It is difficult for them, they do not even suspect that it is possible in another way. That you can come to a person you trust and try to ask for whatever you want - affection, attention, or to be regretted. It's always a risk, you may not get what you want. And then everything starts to depend on you, how you yourself can provide yourself with happiness in life. Take care of your inner child, which every adult has, that kid from childhood … Either you choose to stay in a child's position or in a victim's position, receiving crumbs. For example, to be ill, to be very ill … Too expensive, don't you think?
Do not choose a divorce, but at every opportunity to find fault with your partner. Deeply hating everything that happens, blaming him for all his misfortunes, as if he was obliged to make you happy …
People - "children" or people - "victims" gain something, of course, but they also lose a lot. They lose freedom - inner freedom in making decisions, the freedom to live or not live with this or that person or live alone. The freedom to choose a profession, a field of activity to your liking, freedom in everything! The freedom to just live the way you want!
Why, then, do they not choose freedom? Because freedom scares you, telling you that whatever you choose is your responsibility. After all, in the position of "victim" it is so childishly familiar, everything is so familiar. It's always scary to go into something unknown, to step out of your comfort zone.
If you choose to have a mistress or a lover, you will bear responsibility. If you choose, you will get passion, drive, something else, depending on what is not at the moment in family life … But there is another side of this choice - guilt, shame … But if you do not choose, it will also somehow be … as you want.
If you choose to give birth or not to give birth to children, you will gain something, but some will not … You ask what? Well, that's clear … When you give birth, you will gain warmth, joy, love in interaction with them, tenderness and pleasure when you watch them grow up. You will lose freedom, when there are children, many obligations lie on your shoulders … If you do not give birth to children, you will be free, but you will never be able to enjoy the joy of communicating with them …
The choice also applies to the profession, to your personal life, to your status to who you are … But there is generally a choice - not to choose, for now, at this point in time, just be in a pause, just be, although this can also be called a choice … J The only question is, can you make yourself happy?
The choice is when you are 100% ready to take responsibility for your life, for how you live, with whom, what profession you chose or did not choose at all. There is no perfect choice. There is simply responsibility for your life and for everything that happens in it, but there is an ordinary position of “victim” that is so often encountered. After all, being a “victim” is also a choice. And again … it's up to you!
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