Dating Site: Experiment Complete

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Dating site is the talk of the town. The other day I conducted an experiment and nevertheless came to disappointing conclusions. It is unbearably difficult for kinesthetics on a dating site due to the impossibility of tactility and feeling of a person. However, this is not the worst thing.

Most of the men are these are idlers who cannot cope with their problems and are not satisfied with life, including sexual, and even social.

Questions like "Do you want …?", In my opinion, an adequate person can be unsettled. So, men do not hold back their emotions and immediately declare their needs. On the one hand, everything is fair and understandable. On the other hand, everything is far from easy. And once again you understand how our expectations from dating sites are completely different. Most of the girls who visit such sites feel the need for stable relationships. While it is the majority of men who are completely uninterested in a long romance with the ensuing marriage.

Very often, even after starting a relationship with a girl, a man does not delete the profile from the site at all, but periodically (and in some cases constantly) feeds on new acquaintances, indulging his pride and libido.

I conducted the following experiment:

I registered on the site. I must say that I already had attempts to register, but I was enough for a maximum of one day due to the fact that I fell into complete despondency from the contingent. This time, for a scientific purpose, the experiment nevertheless lasted a little longer. Most of the men asked me the same type of questions, everything went as usual. But some peculiarities began to become clear. So, among such "active" men who want to satisfy their lust, the majority are sexists and despots. For example, ten men from different cities, but approximately the same age category - 30-40 years old, responded to my questionnaire (I am now talking about conditional numbers, since those who know the specifics of dating sites understand that the number of requests is much higher and depends on a number of factors). Of course, there was no desire to respond to vulgar comments or indecent greetings. And there were nine out of ten. Ignoring greasy jokes, I received a lot of sexist and even offensive messages. And only one person with sad eyes wrote me a calm "Hello!" Of course, I answered exactly to him. There was a desire to answer and talk. For two days the correspondence was very intensive. Melancholic, coincided in some issues of the worldview, but that's where they stopped. Any sexual innuendos I neatly folded. On the third day, the man began to put pressure on me, showering compliments with a frank sexual meaning. I must say that communication also acquired a therapeutic character. Conversations about something spiritual and sublime, intellectually significant, on his part, concerned his religious preferences. But religiosity did not prevent him from injecting sexual jokes, which were acquiring more and more a shade of vulgarity. Despotic notes they began to manifest themselves even when I told him about my work, about spiritual practices, which met with resolute resistance on his part. "Buddhism is evil!" The culmination was that after explaining to him the need to leave for a consultation on Skype, he experienced a fit of jealousy. Even the fact that I would advise a woman did not stop him. "What if she's a lesbian?" (though he apologized for that). As a result, I had to stop communicating.

I analyzed it. A very good man. Kind, sympathetic, sincere, but windy, is, on the one hand, in the blinders of religious beliefs, but at the same time, completely unable to control his sexual appetite. Along the way, his multiple psychotraumas were identified. But it is characteristic that the cognitive aspect of our conversation turned out to be unproductive. Most productive was the language of metaphors with religious overtones.

However, disappointing conclusion … Concentration on sex, if not to say "concern", makes a person in fact a slave to his biological needs and deforms the volitional sphere of the personality. Multiple untreated psychotrauma deprives a person of the opportunity to gain charisma and an inner core that contributes to greater attractiveness. At the same time, an insufficient intellectual level impedes the comprehension and rethinking of life attitudes and orientations (for example, the disease is viewed exclusively as "spoilage" without realizing one's own resources and re-evaluating life experience).