2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
This text will not contain psychorecommendations and methods of struggle. I'll just leave my thoughts here.
Anyone who lives enough on earth reaches middle age. Nevertheless, we are surprised when our turn comes up: “And me, then for what?”. What have I done wrong to this world? She strived, stretched, worked, raised children, raised. She did not wish anybody harm, and now what? Everything?
Regardless of what we enter into this crisis - with divorce, trauma, the stage of the "empty nest", illness, or gradually - we somehow lose our bearings. Techniques that once motivated are no longer suitable. We are overwhelmed by the impossibility of pulling ourselves together and starting from the beginning, as we did before. It seems to us that we are faced with the same obstacles, only now, comes the realization that time is running out. The vector of consciousness will mix from the current moment to the given hour.
The middle of life is destruction. You don't know who you are anymore. Everything that was considered natural collapses. Work doesn't make sense, relationships break down, pleasures don't please. And at some point we fall down. Like it or not, the middle of life is space, when the universe whispers “Don't screw it up!” As we watch us make a choice between staying there or being reborn.
This is a crisis of the soul …
We are well aware of the existence of a midlife crisis, but we have little understanding of what it is, how to live with it, what to do with it.
Even if the midlife crisis is not a very painful stage, but just a gentle transition. Whatever you designate, but it still causes changes that a person can no longer control. And not only psychological, but also external.
Until now, no one has outlined any schemes, or methods, or models of constructive overcoming, or methods of psychological support for a person in a given period. But this is also a part of ontogeny. And we are not ready for such a tour.
If you run away - he will catch up, stop - he will overtake, freeze - he will get it, do not pay attention - he will throw you out of reality. And then you remain unburied until your death. As from the famous quote from Benjamin Franklin, "Many people die at 25, but only go to the grave at 75." I do not want…. The prospect of staying dead from 50 to 80 years old seems to me well, very sad.
Crises of children and adolescents have been studied from the beginning to the end. We know how to behave with a child. We know the crises of its development by months and even days. But a midlife crisis requires different, not only psychological, but also spiritual strategies that differ from those that were useful in the early stages of life.
The recommendations that media resources offer us boil down to calls: add physical activity, adhere to a balanced diet, get more rest, change profession.
Do you also think that this is not an option?
Up to this point, we had neither the opportunity nor the time to ask ourselves important existential questions. We worked, built a family, raised children, and made a career. As a result, we have what we have. And it's all?
No.
We are already cramped in common collective values, in the way of life imposed by the environment. We have matured. We are no longer satisfied with the beliefs we have held throughout our lives. They are not conducive to the development of our true identity.
We are ready for the spiritual awakening we deserve through the experiences we have at the end of our first adulthood. After all, each of us, somewhere in the treasury of the soul, has a place that existed before our first breath and will remain there after we take our last breath.
Starting from the middle of life, it seems to me that we are worthy to unfold this treasure in order to discover our true “I”, a deep beginning, the basis from which the second, surpassing the previous, new part of our life will be formed. For the sake of being who we were born to be, to be a unique expression of our deepest self. To open up the full range of pleasures that await us if we do not surrender to complex transformation processes. If we do not dissolve in the face of the inner need to grow up, and not just grow old.
After all, we no longer have an indefinite and infinitely extensible future ahead of us.
Let's talk!
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