2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Information for thought. My rights.
The list of rights proposed by the American psychologist - KD Zasloff.
You have the right:
• sometimes put yourself first;
• ask for help and emotional support;
• protest against unfair treatment or criticism;
• on their own opinions and beliefs;
• make mistakes until you find the right path;
• let people solve their own problems;
• say “NO, thanks”, “sorry, NO”;
• ignore the advice of others and follow your own convictions;
• to be alone (oh), even if others want your company;
• have your own feelings, regardless of whether others understand them;
• change their decisions or choose a different course of action;
• seek a change of agreement that does not suit you.
You never have to:
• be 100% flawless;
• follow the crowd;
• love people who harm you;
• to do something pleasant to people unpleasant to you;
• apologize for being yourself;
• be exhausted for the sake of others;
• feel guilty for your desires;
• put up with an unpleasant situation;
• sacrifice your inner world for the sake of someone else;
• maintain relationships that have become abusive;
• do more than your time allows;
• do something that you really cannot do;
• comply with unreasonable demands;
• to give something that you really do not want to give;
• bear the brunt of someone else's misbehavior;
• to give up your “I” for the sake of someone or anything”.
But, when declaring your rights, it is important to remember: all other people have them, and this allows them to feel good and confident in our world. Therefore, you should respect the personal rights of others as much as you want yours to be respected.
This is what the Bill of Personal Responsibilities is talking about.
You must remember that …
1. You cannot live in society and be free from society - either one or the other.
2. An opinion different from yours may be correct.
3. No one is obliged to behave the way you want.
4. An unacceptable lifestyle for you may be the norm for someone else.
5. Advice based on someone else's experience can save you from mistakes.
6. Your feelings of guilt may indicate that your behavior is unacceptable.
7. Others also have the right to put themselves first.
8. No rules absolve you of responsibility for your actions.
Remember: you have responsibilities to yourself as well as to other people. The main thing in building harmonious relationships is real, and not theoretical, recognition of each other's personal rights.
I don’t know about each of you who have read this list, but every line responds to me. I would say that these rights are very human or something. At the same time, they talk about taking care of ourselves and the people around us. However, the main thing here still remains to give yourself the right to …
If on any of the points you have internal contradictions, it is very important to understand your "why", what are your personal difficulties in implementing this plan in everyday life.
From the book of Parishioners A. M.
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