Be Content With The Little, Cellulite Nag

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Tankova Oksana "Be content with small, cellulite nag"

There are men who hate women their own age. Now, of course, I'm not talking about young people, but about those who are over….

For them, women of the same age are "fallen leaves", while they are, without a doubt, whoa!

Of course, such distancing from peers is associated with rejection of their age, fear of aging, convincing oneself that "everything is fine with me."

So the other day I stumbled upon, if I may say so, an article by a man - a psychologist, in which he talks about women over forty and how he "helps" them, in my opinion, in a very derogatory manner.

A portrait of such a woman - not just a "fallen leaf", but also a "fallen leaf" in divorce.

After all, there are smart women, for some reason cashiers, who hold a stranglehold on their alcoholics, parasites, greedy people, afraid of losing such a thing.

And, apparently, on the part of the author, the "fallen leaf", even if not in a successful, unhappy marriage, has the right to some respect, since, apparently, it was not completely thrown into the trash bin of history. And he understands that with his goodness in the form of wrinkles, a little extra weight, cellulite (woe!

Further develop your codependency, endure beatings, pull someone on your neck, but not look like an old lonely nag with cellulite, who still dares to want something there! 😜

In addition to the above described characteristics of a woman after forty, the author claims that these hypothetical ladies like to attend various yogas and so on, such as self-development, they will soon be given grandchildren (what's wrong?). And for some reason they will surely ruin the life of these grandchildren (just not divorced women over forty, but some kind of witches). They are also looking for how not to take responsibility and who to put it on. They squander the property inherited from ex-husbands and parents with gigolos. Themselves, these women, it turns out, are not able to earn.

So. Let's figure it out.

The fact that a woman after forty can gain some weight is due to hormonal changes. And in general, it is the norm. It's even funny to discuss cellulite.

By the way, it is not only the woman who is recovering, but also the man. And nobody canceled beer bellies either.

Men are getting grayer and older, no less, and often even more.

But that's not the point.

The bottom line is: no matter what appearance a woman is, young or not, healthy or sick, she has the right not to tolerate a swine attitude towards herself in the family, and also to decide: how to live. And with whom. Or just one. Also has the right.

The older a person gets, the more diseases can appear in his life. No one is immune from them. Neither man nor woman. Yes, unfortunately, with age, the physical and mental spheres of a person gradually deteriorate.

Women from thirty usually want to go to yoga, Vedic gatherings and women's trainings. They are all looking for ways: how to achieve, how to please, how to do to …

By the age of forty, a woman gets tired of this. She increasingly wants to be herself

Usually these are independent women who have taken upon themselves not only their own responsibility, but also someone else's.

You know, you can't sit on someone else's neck in a divorce. Especially with children. Yes, and during marriage, many women work on an equal basis with men, and sometimes more men.

Yes, there are women who do not want to accept age, and behave according to the principle:

a small dog and a puppy to old age.

But such women after forty are not the majority. And they are not necessarily divorced. Maybe they weren't married at all. Or they are still there (but they do not forget to dream of a prince).

Further, the author gives an example from his own practice.

Such a woman comes to him, begins to tell her story, and he - bam, let's rip off her masks and show: what a fool she is: she didn't hold on to her greedy husband.

What is meant by: the husband is not bad, but stingy, cannot be deciphered.

Maybe he bought a fur coat not for 200 thousand, but for a hundred, or maybe he didn’t give her any money in all his family life, he didn’t help her in trouble.

Unknown.

But the psychologist explains to the woman that she could not build a relationship with her husband (as if she was building one) and from what she decided that it would work out with others.

Well, right on top of the head so that she doesn't think she's capable.

And the woman already calls herself a fool, appeals to the psychologist: what to do?

And he is either a savior, or a rescuer, or a pursuer in the notorious Karman triangle, right there: he will save the poor, where will he go.

What I agree with in this article is that it is really necessary to work with limiting beliefs not only for women over forty, but also for everyone. And in the view of relationships, of course, both men and women have these beliefs that affect the construction of a family.

BUT:

- initially treat a woman as a second class, without respect, who should be happy with everything;

- savor her physiological changes and almost reproach her with them;

- tear off the masks, but do not give support. Do not see the dignity of a woman and do not let her rely on them;

- to make a woman responsible for everything in a relationship.

unacceptable

For some reason, some psychologists here think that if they shake their fingers and tell the client (s) how everything is bad in him (her), then realizations and changes will come instantly?

Rather hard psychosomatics and resistance will come

And our task is not to place all responsibility on a woman, but to help her understand: where is her responsibility, and where is another.

And, of course, we must believe that she is able to cope with the difficulties that have arisen.

Be healthy

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