2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Projections are taking your inner material out and projecting it onto the outside world. Thus, we find ourselves in the looking glass of our own inner world and do not realize it. We are among people, but we do not see them, we talk, but we do not hear them, our subjective reality is everywhere, but we are not aware of it.
What can we project into the outside world? These can be: phenomena of perception, feelings, thoughts, values, plans.
For example: everyone around me seems to be angry, I am not aware of my anger and aggression, and I project onto others. Everyone around me seems suspicious, greedy, envious, corrupt, sycophants, or vice versa, kind, sweet, respectable - the power of projections is great. This is a reflection of our inner world. I feel that they have taken offense at me, not a fact, perhaps I feel guilty for some act. It seems to me they condemn me - I feel ashamed for something.
When projected - a person ascribes his own undesirable traits to others, and in this way protects himself from the realization of these traits in himself. The projection mechanism allows you to justify your own actions.
For example, I blame someone for being cold to me, to blame for my problems with work, with my personal life, we blame the person, i.e. we want him to take responsibility for us. Not noticing that we do not take it upon ourselves and project it onto another. When a person projects some qualities onto others, he protects himself from realizing these traits in himself.
Projection is a defense mechanism, it allows a person to consider his own shadow contents (unacceptable feelings, desires, motives, ideas, etc.) as strangers, and, as a result, not feel responsible for them. The negative consequence of such protection is the desire to correct the external object onto which something negative is projected, or to get rid of it altogether, in order to get rid of the feelings "caused by it". An external object, meanwhile, may have nothing to do with what is projected onto it.
For example, it seems to me that no one is friends with me, no one loves me, no one hears me, does not listen, does not notice. We project material from the inner world to the outer one. It could sound like this: I can't hear myself and, accordingly, I don't hear anyone, I don't value myself and others either, although I may need them, I don't notice anyone, I don't love. Those. what is happening inside I project outward and do not notice that I myself find myself in this world of the looking glass of my own psyche. We are all not free from projections. But, the more a person alienates his inner part from himself, transfers to another and does not recognize it for himself, the more the projection is malignant.
The acute form of this is: mental illness - hallucinations. Projections are mirrors, they are needed to see yourself. They reflect only the one who looks in them. But often it turns into a journey through the kingdom of "crooked mirrors".
What helps to notice what you are projecting:
1. There are many evaluations, interpretations, judgments about what others think, do, feel, appreciate, experience in speech.
2. Lots of assumptions about what others think and feel about us.
3. Frequent predictions of other people's behavior.
4. Projection is very fond of lack of information, the less we know about something - the easier it is to project.
How to work with projections:
1. Starting with the development of the skill of sensory self-reflection … The ability to recognize our emotions and feelings will automatically insure us against pronounced projection. Then we will understand where our feelings and thoughts are, and where are strangers.
2. Assignment of projections. If we talk about something, for example: "Nobody loves me, nobody appreciates me, nobody needs me, etc." It is helpful to ask the question: How do I know this? Who told me about this? How did I feel or see it? From whom? On the basis of what signs have I made this conclusion?
For a start, this can help you come to your senses, and understand: well, probably about all of this I got excited! Then who exactly? If you single out these people, you can directly ask how they treat me? How do they feel about me? Whom do I love? Whom do I value? If so, then surely in return I am not loved and appreciated? Do I love and appreciate myself? The next moment, for example, we decided that no one loves and appreciates me, no one needs me, no one cares about me! Ask yourself, how do I do this? How do I feel about this? For example, the answer: offensive, sad! Is it then equally indifferent to everyone? And who is most offended that is indifferent? Whose attitude is important to us, and whose so-so it is possible without him. If we identify a person who is very important to us, then we can do something in this direction. And you can tell a person about this that it is offensive, that he is indifferent, or that the person is important to us. We will definitely be noticed!
3. Also try speaking in the first person: instead of “you don’t want to see me” - “I don’t want to see you”, instead of “it’s probably not easy with me” - “I think it’s not easy with you, with me”. And ask if there is some truth in this.
The theme of projections is important in that it makes it possible to see the world more clearly, more objectively, more transparently. I take my projections for myself - by clarifying the situation, by working with topics that are painful to me. Projections indicate our places of work and points of development. Assigning projections can be frustrating, but it gives you the ability to take responsibility for your life. To see her and myself is more clear and objective, then the reality is understandable, what is happening, where I am and where I should go.
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