How To Deal With Aggression

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Such absolutely natural emotions as irritation, anger and even aggression can appear in a completely healthy mentally person as a reaction to stimuli of various strengths.

However, a negative attitude towards aggression has been formed in our parents since childhood. One of the reasons for such upbringing is the inability of elders to properly respond to the irritation and anger of their own child.

Therefore, by all available means, they try, first of all, to suppress any manifestation of aggression in him. Although the most effective solution in this case would be to try to help your child in awareness of the emotions experienced and provide an opportunity to express them safely for yourself and others. We will return to this topic later.

As we matured, we learned to be responsible for ourselves, our loved ones and important decisions made in life or in professional activity. But despite this, we still know the feeling of fear of our own anger and its consequences.

Although it is much more correct not to be afraid, but simply to accept the fact that being angry is quite normal. In the future, you should learn to track your negative emotions. For example, when you find yourself in a conflict situation, you need to say to your anger mentally: "I see you." Not to deny, but to take it for granted: "I am a living person and therefore I can get angry."

After that, it is important to understand that the way of expressing aggression must be timely and adequate. In the society in which we all live, there is a certain set of generally accepted norms and rules that allow us to coexist normally with others. Otherwise, it's even scary to imagine life in society, where everyone would have the opportunity to show their anger as soon as they feel it.

Express your aggression correctly!

I would like to share the professional and favorite technique of liberation from my own aggression, which, I think, will definitely be useful to you. For this "it is required": aggression, the desire to express it, a sheet of blank paper, a pen and 15 minutes of your time. This technique is as simple as it is effective.

Write your abuser a letter! Yes, that's right, a real letter on paper. In it, tell him everything that you cannot afford (and you are doing right!) In your real life. You should not be shy in expressions, even obscene ones.

You can write absolutely everything that comes to mind at least in capital letters. And keep writing until you feel that it has become easier for you because the negative emotions splashed out on the paper finally do not possess you.

Now this letter should be destroyed: tear it up, burn it … But while performing this action, think that along with the letter you are destroying your own anger towards this person. That's all!