2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Each of us has difficult periods in our lives. Among them: living grief through parting with a loved one, making an important decision, a sharp change in the usual way of life, the loss of a beloved pet, etc.
It is very important to share with someone who can listen, understand and accept the complexity of our experiences.
Remember the old Soviet cartoon "Kozlik and His Grief"?
In my opinion, this is a very beautiful and wonderful metaphor that shows how important it is to share your "grief" with others.
This story is about how important it is not to be afraid of condemnation and criticism.
Sincere support really works wonders!
Remember how he gradually distributed his "grief" to everyone, and at the end the chickens ate the rest and the "grief" disappeared?
At first it was very difficult for him to part with a whole bag of his grief, but then he happily shared it with everyone who asked.
When we share our experiences with others, it not only lightens our soul, but also makes it possible to look at ourselves from the outside, through the eyes of another person.
It is very important that these "eyes" are full of unconditional acceptance, love and participation. After all, then we ourselves have a chance to accept ourselves, with all the difficult experiences and feel support under our feet. When in the gaze of another person, close to us, we read: “I am with You! Everything is fine! Everything will definitely be fine!”- this softens even the most painful experiences and wounds.
Indeed, in reality, the most valuable thing in life is precisely sincere friendship and love!
It is only through the experience of unconditional acceptance and support that we learn to trust others and ourselves!
And relying on someone else in difficult situations, we learn, in the end, to rely on ourselves!
This is similar to the process when a child learns to walk.
First he needs support. He needs an adult to confidently hold his hand.
And then, when the child gains confidence and feels that he can already stand firmly on his feet, it is important to let him go in time and he is already walking on his own.
Step by step…
At first hesitantly, looking at an adult.
He falls.
It is unpleasant, sometimes it hurts a lot …
But he gets up and tries on.
He rises and continues to learn to rely on himself!
And each time, confidence appears more and more and he finally ceases to need someone to hold his hand.
A person who is going through difficult times is very much like a small child who needs sincere support.
Don't be shy or afraid to ask for support.
Moreover, when we ask another: “Support me! I feel bad now!”, We demonstrate that we are also the same person of flesh and blood, when we show our weakness and vulnerability, we demonstrate strength of spirit and character.
Think about who from your environment can support you now, when you are going through difficulties.
And if there is no such person, or for some reason you do not want to contact him, then you can contact me for advice.
Together we will survive your "grief" and be sure that the sun will shine even brighter later!
Write to the mail ([email protected]).
Or call: 0990676321 (Viber, WhatsApp, Telegram).
With love, IRINA Pushkaruk
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