DURING THE DEVELOPMENT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LOVER, THE MAN CONTINUES TO TAKE DIFFERENT OBLIGATIONS TO HER - Lying WITH HER

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

DURING THE DEVELOPMENT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH A LOVER, THE MAN CONTINUES TO TAKE DIFFERENT OBLIGATIONS BEFORE HER - Lying WITH HER IN THE SAME BED, fantasizes about future joint children - sooner or later, one has to answer for the promises and words given. After all, as you know:

The initiative to commit adultery is punishable by the loss of the family.

Having found himself hostage to his own words, a married man often goes to divorce with the same pleasure as a convicted person goes to the scaffold.

At this moment, while delaying the inevitable and convincing himself and his mistress that the process of leaving his wife and preparing for a divorce has already begun, many men begin the process of secretly taking their personal belongings out of the house. Usually, we are talking about documents, clothes, shoes, briefcases, belts, favorite books, weapons, various equipment, spare parts, photo albums, etc.

In the absence of a wife and children at home, men quietly take all this out of the house, carefully masking the emptying of shelves and shoeboxes.

Although, it is obvious that such male behavior is just another way to postpone the time of the inevitable conversation with his wife and shows that he is afraid of both women at once - his wife and his mistress.

As the practice of divorce proceedings shows, at this dramatic moment, a lot depends on the behavior of the wife.

The pattern is simple here:

If a spouse, who noticed the secret removal of things, arranges a grandiose scandal for her husband, thereby she increases the likelihood of her divorce. Because the louder she screams and the more acutely she hurts male pride with insults (especially if she begins to disgrace her husband in front of children), the:

- she will push her husband away from herself more, convincing him that all these years he really was bad with such a rude woman;

- will speed up the process of the final departure of the husband from the family faster;

- will give more trump cards to the mistress, who will begin to feel sorry for the unfortunate stressed man, and in contrast to the “black and prickly” wife will turn out to be “white and fluffy”;

- will leave her husband and herself less chances for a constructive dialogue to preserve the marriage.

If the spouse, who noticed the secret removal of her husband's belongings, first tries to secretly collect as much information as possible about the causes of the events, and then (without the dedication of children and parents to the whole story) will offer her husband such a tone of conversation that will make him ashamed of his own treacherous and cowardly behavior, then she:

- can improve the husband's ideas about himself, make him understand that, in fact, he lives with a completely worthy woman;

- will make it clear to her husband that she is definitely not his enemy;

- will include a man's conscience and responsibility for family and children;

- will show him that he still has many opportunities not to slam doors, but to stay in the family home where he is appreciated, loved and can be forgiven;

- will slow down or even eliminate the danger of the husband's final departure from the family, increase the chances that he can return back;

- will outplay his mistress, who, upon learning that her husband has entered into peace negotiations with his wife, can herself begin to insult him by comparing him with a "rag", openly press him, thereby falling in his eyes and reducing the attractiveness of the future life together, about which he before that I dreamed so passionately;

- even if the husband leaves, will create comfortable conditions for him to regularly visit an abandoned family and communicate with children;

- will retain all the chances of conducting a future dialogue on family rebuilding.

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