2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
And, if before that, for twenty minutes, with a dull gaze, he told me about all his life difficulties, as if entangled in one inseparable tangle, then after this "magic phrase" of his, he seemed to straighten his back and looked at me waiting for an answer.
And really, "for what" ?! After all, a "man" is able to solve a problem even at the stage of its occurrence, without retreating and not bending under circumstances stubbornly preventing him from going towards His Goal. A "man", as I understood from the question, and from the whole view of the interlocutor, understands where and when he made a mistake, what needs to be changed and what forces and means to use to solve His Main Tasks. And, if he, faced with difficulties, does not use all the opportunities to overcome them, then he has not done enough.
One caveat - none of the above was now even indirectly felt in our conversation with him. Probably tired of fighting. Perhaps I did not find understanding. Apparently, he was disappointed in everything. And now he has only complaints about neighbors, accusations of loved ones, attempts to justify himself to a greater extent to himself, but not a willingness to somehow cope with “all this”.
So why does a peasant need a "shrink"? Is he able to help, and in what ?!
The fact is that at the present stage of development, psychology as a science has a large practical store of knowledge in order to help a person achieve what he wants rationally and effectively. The counseling process is tuned for tangible results: goal - achievement, problem - solution, question - answer. And therefore, many of the men who turn to a psychologist even with a “vague question” and receive an accurate and competent answer to it, as a rule, continue to work together on other issues as well. After all, if there is a good result in one area, then there will be a desire to improve other aspects of your life. Improve actively, intelligently, consciously.
Apparently, therefore, most often you can hear the phrase "I visit a psychologist" from those men who seek to improve their lives, to understand the laws of fate, the principles of success and the laws of relationships. It was then, having all this knowledge, the "man" and becomes "real", able to move mountains on the way to the happiness of his family, the development of his organization and the formation of Himself.
Of course, there are those who turn "almost too late", that is, when it is already very difficult to rectify the situation. But even then there are opportunities to achieve a good result, subject to complete trust and cooperation.
I did not explain all this to my interlocutor, but simply gave him my business card and offered to talk more substantively, but only when he was ready for it. He only called yesterday, six months after our conversation. "Problems need to be solved, and I am ready for this, but I need a professional look from the outside," he said today at a consultation. "This is exactly what the 'shrinker' is for," I added, and we both smiled.
Skobelkin Artyom Sergeevich
crisis psychologist, specialist in solving personal and family difficulties.
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