2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
At work they want us to fulfill our official duties, close people want attention and care from us, friends expect communication and support from us, etc. the list of who expects from us and what can be continued for a long time.
The essence remains the same - there are people who expect something from us, and we try to give it to them. Sometimes we get so carried away by the process of pleasing others that we completely forget about our desires and needs.
It also happens that we generally forbid ourselves to want anything, justifying it with a lack of money "I can't afford it", "It's too expensive for me", a lack of time "I have no time", "If I had more time ", Hide behind fears and doubts and so on.
Without dreams and our own desires, we lose ourselves, our personality and dissolve in other people, become dependent on them.
I consider it a very important life skill to allow yourself to want, be able to dream and have many desires.
Desires do not have to be material in the form of a car, an apartment of money, etc., they can also be spiritual, emotional, teaching, developing, for example, learn a foreign language, swim with dolphins, learn to make a panna cotta, sit on a twine …
When we allow ourselves to want, a whole world opens up before us. When we can at least mentally imagine what we want, but for which we do not have the resources now, we already at this level admit the possibility of fulfilling what we want in our reality, although we do not yet know how exactly to bring it to life.
I suggest you make a technique of 100 desires that will help you listen to yourself, move your brain and get your hidden needs from the very depths.
The technique is to write 100 of your desires on a piece of paper in one sitting. As practice shows, it can be difficult to do this in one go, since in the middle you begin to understand that you have already wished all the material benefits for yourself, and the list is far from complete, and you don’t know how to supplement it. And here the most interesting thing begins, when material desires are replaced by desires taking care of themselves, of their soul and body …
The following questions may help:
What would I like to change?
What would I like to improve?
What skills do I want to acquire?
What do I like to do?
You can continue to work with the compiled list.
For example, - Analyze which of the written desires are really yours, and which are imposed by advertising or other people
- Number the list in order of importance to you
- Highlight 10 immediate desires that I would like to bring to life as soon as possible.
For each of these ten desires, draw up a plan for implementation by answering the questions:
- How can I get what I want?
- What do I need to do for this?
- How long do I need to complete?
- What resources are needed for execution?
- What skill skills do you need to upgrade?
- Who can help me with the implementation?
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