Reconciliation Of Parts Of The Personality. Cinderella - "before" And "after"

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

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Alena Viktorovna, after our autumn session, my problem associated with psychosomatic tremor has noticeably softened. But time has passed and the tremor returns again. There are no physical ailments associated with the symptom - I checked. I want to continue working with psychosomatic manifestations in order to consolidate the obtained result.

History of visits …

The client visited me only twice in the fall. Both visits were truly effective. The first session is described in a recent article, The Lost Inner Child and Psychosomatic Tremor. The second is dedicated to separation from parents. This work hastened the client's move to a separate, own home. And just recently she came to me for the third time, I will describe this session in today's publication.

Reconciliation of parts of the personality. Cinderella - before and after

Last time, the work with tremor was solved in the practice of EOT. This time - in the NLP strategy - in the format of the technique "Reconciliation of parts of the personality". For this:

1. we separated two conflicting parts of the client in different chairs: the part associated with tremors of the hands and head, and the opposite part (conditionally healthy, safe, calm) (extremely critical to the problem one);

2. separately developed each of the parts (by personifying it in the image);

3. heard the tasks and capabilities of both subpersonalities;

4. found a resource condition for combining the two parts.

Classic working scheme!

And now in a little more detail, literally on the points voiced.

1. Dilution of two parts

Two additional chairs have been brought to the office. The client determined where her subpersonalities were sitting, and spread the seats at a certain distance from each other (thus determining the ratio of the two positions).

2. Manifestation of two parts (personification of images)

The client began work with a conditionally happy, calm part, taking her position and delving into a specific image. This image seemed to her a little more mature than her present (about three years). It was an incredibly harmonious, balanced, positive and self-confident image. The image of a prosperous aristocrat. In a long blue dress, with a beautifully styled hairstyle - for some reason, blondes (although the client is a brunette). During the description of the image, we both exclaimed almost simultaneously …

Tr: "How similar to Cinderella!"

CL: "Oh yes! She is a princess! Like Cinderella!"

When the client moved to another chair and began to personify her second subpersonality, she presented the following characteristic: this girl is my age, she is literally squeezed into a ball, as if skinny (depressed and humiliated), she is cold - she is trembling (characteristic of a tremor - remember?) - from the cold and fear, and in no way, she CANNOT get warm, her face is lowered, her back is hunched over, her eyes look at the floor, according to her social status, this is a beggar.

The client and I agreed that this subpersonality is also similar to Cinderella, but from the first part of the story - slighted, sad, downtrodden and forgotten by everyone.

Knowing the client's story, I understood that this was her traumatized childish part (I will not go deep into this topic now, but this information leaves no doubt and was manifested by previous sessions, work).

3. Determination of the tasks and capabilities of each part

In this working phase, the client - one by one, from each position - identified and voiced the tasks and capabilities of each of her subpersonalities. With which (not without my help) she coped wonderfully.

We started with the orphan Cinderella. This monologue sounded like this …

My task is to remind myself of a girl abandoned in the past - an unacceptable, abandoned girl, who was not heard, who was completely forgotten: during the period when my mother married her stepfather and gave birth to her second child, they significantly alienated me. In that family, I felt like an outcast - completely, completely alien. I perceptibly lacked attention and warmth.

Then we moved on to the Princess Cinderella and heard this …

My task is to assure the person of her consistency: I can and became a princess - noble, confident and beautiful, warmed by the care and attention of the prince. In me there is (and always was) a certain resource - the resource of royalty - not a beggar, it just needs to be revealed. At this time, I am ready to accept myself as the old one into the abode of well-being and warmth. I am a strong, resourceful part! Wealthy, successful! I think I can do anything!

4. Combining the two parts

At this stage, we completed the next important part of the work … From the position of the Cinderella-princess, we turned to the Cinderella-orphan with about the following monologue … (I helped the client with the formulation of important messages to herself - my wounded, weakened part.)

"My dear sister, I see you, I recognize you! I love and accept you! Now you are not alone! We are together and forever! I invite you into my arms and abode! Let's join hands! Let's sit by the fire! Let's embrace! Feel how we are warm, how calm and wonderful it is! You are warmed, recognized and accepted by me! We are princesses with you! Dear, noble, prosperous and successful! We are happy! We are calm and well!"

I asked the client to look at herself from the position of the former beggar woman, and she saw herself differently: that subpersonality straightened up, sat more confidently, perceptibly warmed up and completely stopped trembling, a new feeling settled inside her - poise, calmness and balance. I asked the client to return to her seat and embrace the union of the two sisters, reinforcing it (upon returning home) with a repeated, session-like dialogue, like homework for the night (this time is closer to the subconscious) - promoting the achieved result. In addition, I left the following useful exercise for the client - Self-Esteem Practice. "Meeting yourself is perfect". Since the client's Cinderella-princess turned out to be a little older than herself, I asked her somehow, in her free time, to carry out one practical task - a symbolic meeting with herself - a resource from the future - with the promotion of the best positions of her destiny. At the end of the session, I asked the client how she was feeling? The girl's condition was very harmonious, balanced, which is the criterion for the existing, good work. Of course, the wounded child part of the client requires a lot of follow-up work. And the therapy will continue. Additional tasks for working with the inner child from my archived videos were also left at home. These videos can be viewed on the channel - Alena Blishchenko on YouTube. I consider the session to be indicative and productive. I share my work! I invite those who wish to the reception!

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