2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Legend has it that one day the Japanese ruler Ashikaga Yoshimasa broke his beloved bowl. He ordered to restore it, and the cup was sent to China. The craftsmen repaired the bowl and returned it to the shogun, but it turned out that they had connected the fragments with large braces. Ashikaga Yoshimasa was dissatisfied with the work done and ordered the Japanese craftsmen to redo it. They not only connected the shards, restoring the bowl, but created something unique using the kintsugi technique. The basis of this restoration technique, literally meaning "gold patch", is that breakages and cracks are not masked, but, on the contrary, are emphasized by filling with varnish mixed with gold, silver or platinum powder. A vessel restored using this technique acquires greater value than a vessel without flaws, and each crack and each chip makes it unique.
Often our mental traumas turn out to be sealed with such rough braces, turning our soul into a creature like Frankenstein. Our “flaws” and apparent imperfections can cause burning shame and a desire to disguise them, put them in a distant box, and consign our own history to oblivion. The presence of trauma means that at one time our psyche was not ready to digest the emotions that arose as a reaction to some event. Trauma doesn't make us worse and worse; the traumatic event is not our fault, but we lack the gold (inner resources) to acknowledge the trauma and process it into something of value.
In describing the aftermath of a traumatic experience, Donald Kalshed writes: “The trauma survivor often describes the experience as a feeling of inner" breakdown "… When the personality is subject to such disintegration, difficult times come for the soul. If the personality is fragmented, then the soul cannot flourish and grow. With a fragmented psyche, the soul cannot move into the body and stay in it as a divine / human principle of inner stability and self-sufficiency. Perhaps she sometimes pays a visit as an intruder, but with such a flickering and ghostly presence of the soul, the feeling of being animated and alive is largely lost. This happens because the soul, by definition, is itself the source of animation and vitality, the center of our God-given spirit - the vital spark in us. However, this is not the only "force" acting in the psyche. Another trend, comparable in strength or even stronger than the one mentioned above, is the desire for integration and integrity. And if Jung is right, we have a "longing" for this integrity, an instinctive desire for it."
It is trauma, as an integral part of life experience, that makes us unique. Painful experiences also contain a resource, and the energies held inside the trauma hide the potential for development.
Trauma cuts us off from our own vitality, but it also opens the door for energies of healing. Instead of maintaining an unrealistic image, it is worth recognizing your history as it is. And then, in place of rough seams and cracks, golden threads appear.
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