2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you are insulted for being fat, the problem is not that you are fat. And the fact that you are insulted.
I often hear from moms: "My daughter / my son is teased for being fat. How can I explain to her that she is not really fat?"
It is even more difficult if the child is actually overweight.
And even more often, weight insults are found among adults. They are most severely bullied because of the weight in the family and in close relationships, then in medical institutions.
In this place, we habitually focus on ourselves: if we are told that something is wrong with me, it’s me. But this habit does not allow you to see the real problem. Your child (or you) is in an abusive relationship. This is problem.
I was teased at school. I had two reasons, as it were: glasses and being tall. I was teased with a giraffe, a watchtower, a tower and a bespectacled one. The problem was not that my whole family is tall, and neither was I. The problem was with these bullers, that in our school it was customary to behave like that. When in the seventh grade I moved to another class where insults were not accepted, I stopped hearing anything about my appearance. They began to notice my intelligence, sense of humor, ability to play the guitar and generosity in terms of writing off on the test. Am I shorter? Of course no.
It's the same with weight. Even if you are overweight, no person has the right to insult you and tell you how much you eat. Even if this is a close and beloved person, then all the more so it cannot be done.
All over the world now weight is almost the only feature, because of which, as it were, it is "possible" to offend a person. It is considered indecent to insult a person for his nationality, sexual orientation, gender, age, political views. And being overweight remains almost the only "legal" way to express your aggression. Moreover, most women themselves consider being overweight to be their fault, so they listen to all these "can you really eat this?", "Aren't you on a diet?" and "when are you going to the gym?" But this remains aggression and, in difficult cases, bullying.
Don't be insulted. No matter how much you weigh, no matter how tall, no matter how you look.
Bullying and insults are a relationship issue, not an appearance issue.
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