2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
My daughter quietly sneaks into my room and asks this question: "Dad, when can you play with me?" She knows that I work from home and therefore tries to be respectful to it. This approach touches me deeply. Zhenya needs this joint game, this is how our communication takes on one of its forms. It's boring to be at home alone when dad is busy reading the articles of his colleagues, writing his own, communicating on the forum. And by the way, she knows that I am writing this article, since I told her that I would write about it. And she already asked how the case was going.
This is a living warm relationship between us - it needs to be maintained. We came up with a lot of all kinds of games - this is the game "moray eel" (guess who plays this role?), And the "sleeping guard" who, waking up, catches the offender; in King Kong (yours truly), martial arts, sambo and "Greco-Roman wrestling" - also occupy a worthy place. And also - a waltz with a separation from the sofa or an element from folk dances. All games have a comic effect. We have plenty of fun! Sometimes, however, I have to invent something new, because I get tired of playing the same games. On a trip, being on vacation, we came up with nonexistent dog breeds, their appearance and working qualities.
Guess what my daughter does when I can't play with her? She asks for permission to watch cartoons or sticks to the smartphone she recently bought and plays. What are we trying to do in this situation? We are looking for a balance. For example, I say: "I need to read 8 articles, when I read at least two, I can pause and we will play with you." My daughter asks me: "How much have you read?" After we play for a while, I go back to work, saying that I need a break - now to work.
Often this is a difficult choice between the desire to complete what you started, to fulfill the plan outlined for the day, and joint experience, communication with your beloved daughter. Moreover, I feel and know how important it is to be close to a loved one, to give my attention and warmth, to provide support, to express acceptance. This makes it possible to feel peace of mind thanks to your loved ones, provides psychological health and maturity. It is a starting emotional capital for further development and success. And it works "here and now", it is actual at the moment.
Sometimes I am patient, sometimes I get annoyed, I am not an ideal dad, and I do not strive to be one. One thing I know for sure - nothing is dearer to me than our relationship and you can always learn by receiving feedback and taking it into account. So many common moments, impressions, joy, adventures, discoveries and travels! How colorful our world is! How rich he is! And I always rejoice internally and feel my value for her, when once again I hear, like music: "Dad, when can you play with me?"
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