The Tale Of The Dead Princess Or The Program Of The Rejecting Mother

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Cold mother

Let's remember Pushkin …

For a long time the king was inconsolable, but what to do? And he was sinful;

The year passed like an empty dream, the king married another.

To tell the truth, the young woman really was a queen:

Tall, slender, white, and she took it with her mind and everyone;

But on the other hand, she is proud, lazy, capricious and jealous …

This is how the young queen is described in the tale. It is important that not the mother, but the heroine's stepmother is described in this way: a real parent, according to all spiritual canons, should be completely different - warm and accepting, and only the stepmother (literally and figuratively) is capable of another manifestation - to be rejecting, icy. But what is behind this rejection, what is it? Let's turn to a fairy-tale analogy …

Competing scenario. Looking at the daughter as a rival

Let's get back to the fairy tale … The Ice Queen, not hiding her initial rejection, nevertheless did not immediately change the existing order of things. What happens next in the storyline? Why did the growing stepdaughter become exiled and killed? Let's turn to the plot …

But the young princess, quietly blossoming, Meanwhile it grew, grew, rose - and blossomed, White-faced, black-browed, to the temper of such a meek one.

And she found a bridegroom, the prince Elisha …

Going to a bachelorette party, here is the queen, dressing up

In front of her mirror, she spoke to him:

"Am I, tell me, the loveliest of all, of all blush and whiter?"

What is the answer in the mirror? “You are beautiful, no doubt;

But the princess is the loveliest of all, the blush and whiter of all."

As the queen will jump away, but as the handle will swing, Yes, as he slaps on the mirror, as he stomps on the heel!

“Oh, you disgusting glass! You are lying to me for evil.

How can she compete with me? I’ll calm the foolishness in it”…

Here it is - the point subtext of the stepmother's external attitude: the sole ruler does not allow any competition, defending her position - a young and beautiful rival is not pleasing to her and is not needed. Having eliminated a competitor, she will remain at the helm: she will reign supreme. Including in a relationship with a significant man - the king. It is important for an arrogant proud woman to maintain her influence - absolute power. In any way, even in an illegal way. And now the rival is removed, "immobilized". In fact, it is “killed”, that is, it is turned off.

Cut out daughter

Why is the influence of a rejecting mother dangerous? Let's touch on the fairy tale again …

The door quietly locked, under the window sat down behind the yarn

Wait for the owners, and kept looking at the apple. It

The ripe juice is full, so fresh and so fragrant, So rosy-golden, as if poured with honey!

The seeds are visible right through … She wanted to wait

Before lunch; could not stand it, took the apple in my hands, She brought it to the scarlet lips, bit by bit

And she swallowed a piece … Suddenly she, my soul, She staggered without breathing, lowered her white hands, I dropped the rosy fruit, rolled my eyes, And under the image, she fell headlong on the bench

And she became quiet, motionless …

The princess is poisoned. But is it an apple? Only outwardly. Essentially different - rejection, hatred, pride. And also - a ban on manifestation, flowering, life itself. Under the influence of such an attitude, the "heart" of the girl "turns off", as if she is no longer there: after all, she was forbidden to BE for so long. A terrible formula that covers the future, roads.

Let's list the natural result of such a detrimental influence, which areas are disabled in these strategies? Let's call the running bans.

1. Prohibition on life - "Don't live!"

2. Ban on happiness - “Not worthy! Suffer!"

3. The ban on manifestation - “You are not! You are nobody!"

4. Ban on feelings - “Freeze! Get lost! Do not be!"

5. Prohibition of choice - “Everything is decided! Obey!"

The mournful list can be continued … But such daughters cannot have real happiness and real, genuine life (without further therapy by acceptance, "defrosting") - they are "dead" …

Rescue resources

Let's touch on the important thing: what in such a scenario is a saving way out? Does he exist at all? Let's go back to the parable …

Before him, in the sad haze, a crystal coffin sways,

And in a crystal coffin, the princess sleeps in eternal sleep.

And on the coffin of the sweet bride, he hit with all his might.

The coffin was smashed. The virgin suddenly came to life. Looks around

With amazed eyes, and swinging over the chains, Sighing, she said: "How long have I slept!"

And she rises from the coffin … Ah! And both burst into tears.

Love crowns Pushkin's fairy tale. Impossible as if in this scenario, but the only saving one is always regenerating, giving further life. In reality, the recipe is essentially the same - one: acceptance, return to oneself-present, permitted manifestation and love. Here are the therapeutic strategies:

1.healing the inner child, 2. restoration of contact with oneself, 3.improving personal self-esteem, 4. corrective work with prohibitions, 5. return to yourself real.

That is, a serious and long path to "defrosting" and "revitalization", opening a good future future, bright, permissive roads, a genuine, happy life.

There is an exit! And it is one in many situations - just universal! Both in fairy tales and in reality. Let's call it..