5 Obstacles To Finding A Vocation: 2 Will Baffle You

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The search for a vocation is a transition from the state of "everything like people" to a new dimension "everything as you dreamed of". And in the process of this transition from everyday life to the path of dreams, you will definitely run into these 5 obstacles.

Why is finding your calling becoming such a difficult quest?

The search for a vocation is very similar to an experiment on yourself, when you, like Mechnikov, infect yourself with typhus in order to get a new medicine to save humanity.

Just imagine, completely different people: office workers, managers, executives, freelancers, mothers on maternity leave, entrepreneurs, they are all united by one situation - they are all in search of their calling and they are all stuck. For two, three, five, ten years. All of them are looking for an answer to a simple question: "Who could we be if …".

They all think something like this … When I figure out what I want. When I find myself. Then something real in my life will begin.

And at this moment, the following can happen unconsciously: a person in search of a vocation can pause his life and live some part of his life, for several years, in a draft mode.

Someone might call this a syndrome of postponed (for later) life.

5 reasons why the search for a vocation takes so long

These are the conclusions from the practice of searching for the vocation of several thousand people, look, maybe among them there is your personal obstacle on the way to a new life and work-dream with pleasure?

The first obstacle: you think too much when answering the wrong question

People in search of a vocation ask themselves many good questions:

• What I like?
• What do I like to do?
• What do I want?
• How can I change the world for the better?
• Who am I to be?
• What is important to me?

These are the conclusions from the practice of searching for the vocation of several thousand people, look, maybe among them there is your personal obstacle on the way to a new life and work-dream with pleasure?

People in search of a vocation ask themselves many good questions:

This is the official version of questions in the search for yourself, gleaned by you from the books.

In fact, it's kind of much more important for you to answer another question, taken from the practice of how people make decisions, and it sounds like this:

What is my real, true vocation, which is guaranteed until the end of my life, until the last day will bring me pleasure and money, will immediately be obtained, will be well paid and will be clear to everyone around?

And also, let my vocation not take a full time, because I am already tired of all this.

Of course, it is impossible to answer this question quickly and simply - that is why you run into an obstacle and pause your life in search of an answer.

Obstacle 2: you are trying to make a selection without the right amount of data

We often don’t know what we want and who we should be, not because we don’t know, but because we don’t know what is, because we don’t know what happens.

Imagine that you are trying to calculate a route from your navigator, and half of the map is not loaded into your navigator.

How from point A, having determined where you are and what you can do, you can arrive at point B of your destination, if this point is simply not loaded into the navigator map?

Let's check your navigators right now, I will list the professions, what people are making money with right now, and you will read and ask your navigator a question - does he know these types of activities:

• scriber
• crypto consultant
• scrummaster
• somnologist
• content maker
• instagramologist
• transcriber
• mediator
• human designer
• cleaning consultant
• storyteller
• food stylist
• psychodramatist
• blockchain architect
• digital artist
• aroma stylist
• biohacker
• fumelier (not to be confused with sommelier)
• game designer
• career strategist
• web gardener
• neuro-engineer
• sound designer
• drone operator

Well? How is your navigator not overheated? Now imagine that some of these activities are your calling. Damn, but it's not in your map! And you are not looking for him. And you will never find it! A curtain!

Conclusion: In order not to get stuck in the pause of choosing the destination, we load the navigator with new data.

Obstacle 3: you overestimate your ability to predict what you want

Here's a real-life success story. which sounds like this:

"Sveta worked as a manager in a large bank, earned good money and dreamed of opening her own cheese factory. She opened a family cheese factory, became a cheese maker and was happy."

But in reality it also happens:

"Ivan dreamed of his restaurant on the seashore for nine years. To feel freedom and give people happiness. He sold his apartment in Moscow and everything he could. And he opened a restaurant on the seashore. And then, he sold his restaurant on the seashore today. works happily in his own sports club."

"Yana dreamed of a start-up for women. So that their work would make sense. She worked in a large corporation. She created a start-up for women. She closed a start-up for women. And now she is successfully working in an alternative energy campaign."

"Dima wanted to become a chef for 16 years. At the same time, he was building a career as a manager. He became a chef. At the same time, he very quickly became a top manager in a new topic."

You are so so predictors of what you want … Do you agree? You can test this hypothesis about what you want, who you want, only by getting close enough to your dream.

Obstacle 4: you overestimate plans and underestimate opportunities

I'll try to explain. Nearly everyone who reads this publication has at one time or now is in a happy relationship.

Now remember the day when you met your companion. Not the first day of a date, but the first meeting with a loved one.

After all, you could not imagine that this would happen to you not a day, not a week, and even more so not 5 years before this event.

Planning is overrated

And you're trapped in the idea that nothing good will happen in life if you haven't planned it.

And so you sit and try to plan when, in what place and with whom a fateful meeting will take place, which will turn our destiny.

Planning is a great way to stay away from your dreams, right?

Obstacle 5: you have little idea of your potential

Why to the question: who to be? you rarely get the only correct answer: To be youreself.

Because many people do not understand how cool it is to just be yourself!

A child who learns to walk, if he acted in exactly the same way as you, and would treat himself like you, then after each fall on the bottom, he would sit and think that walking is definitely not mine.

Do you understand? But you do this all the time! You are always in last place in yourself.

You just don't know what you are capable of if you are in a strong version of yourself, which is now gathering dust on the shelf of your life. If you're in genius mode.

Do you want to know how to literally visit genius mode tomorrow?

Yes, you were in it, just yesterday! Think of yourself after a good run or throwing march in the garden, when you were at your peak.

Remember your feelings and try in this state to solve some problem that did not give in in your usual state.

Chances are good that you will find a solution quickly and easily.

And also: remember how you came up with a brilliant idea, you caught insight while cleaning or washing dishes, during a morning walk.

Your mind was in a dispersed state and the decision seemed to fly into your head.

Conclusion: If you are looking for your destiny not in the best version of yourself, in the wrong state of mind, then how much you would not want it - you will not succeed!

Most harmful advice for finding a calling: Think for a very long time, analyze, check, collect stories of other people. And only after that make a decision and start making plans. After that, just start trying something. It is advisable not to deviate from the plan. The main thing is to choose one goal and follow it. And then, when you are found, then you will be happy

But here's a neat way to hack the system, answer your questions:

1. Why do people leave their comfort zone?
2. Why do people go to extra effort?
3. What is all this quest for?

More often than not, you think: for fame, for money, for recognition, for success, for meaning. This is undoubtedly the case and this set is different for everyone.

But! There is the most important reason, for the sake of what all this is happening and I will now express it in just 3 words:

It's interesting for me to live

Or even two: living is cool! This is the feeling you need, do you understand?

Therefore, instead of sitting at the computer towards your dreams, instead of years of planning and enumerating options: ACT!

Go into the world, visit a psychologist, start meeting new people, expand your field of choice. Load your navigator with knowledge and taste of new activities and activities.

The vocation will find you on its own if you create a cool and interesting life

If you do not find it, it will find you! This is the paradox of seeking a vocation.

So take your life off the pause. Go for reconnaissance in force!

And then everything will turn out not in 10 years, but right now, now.

* the article was written based on the materials of the career coach E. Rezanova (Moscow)