2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
14 rules not to be a parent or
Demonic parent
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It is contraindicated to pour out your own discontent life for the child, as for the scapegoat or fixed sacrifice. Where will the child go from the submarine? After all, he is absolutely dependent on the parent in terms of physical survival and emotionally attached.
- You shouldn't be annoyed, grumbling, gloomy and hateful. Children are masters of non-verbal communication and read facial expressions, gestures, arrows from the eyes and intonation. And since egocentric - everyone hangs on themselves, thinking that they are to blame for your bad mood.
- And if you blame baby for everything, then hello Toxic wine.
- Low call child. For a child, a parent is the whole world. And if the World broadcasts that the child is bad, then it is bad. The child is unable to analyze and understand that something is wrong with the parent.
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Silly shame the child, negatively comparing with other children. The boy Kolya hit and didn’t cry, but yours scratched his knee and yelled like he hadn’t cut it. It looks like your child has a different threshold of pain sensitivity and is bursting with pain. Someone else's girl is sunny and cheerful, and yours is sad and frowning. First, maybe the daughter is melancholic. Secondly, the child is a symptom of the family. What is happening in the family that she is not laughing at. Turn your eyes to yourself. Your dotsya is clubfoot like a teddy bear. And the neighbor's Tanya puts her legs so beautifully. You will not be able to correct the structure of the bone, but you will easily instill Toxic Shame in a child. The child will feel wrong and unfinished. And the same will be his self-presentation to the world. In adulthood, she will attract situations and people who will confirm this according to the principle of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
- If you criticize, then only for the perfect bad act, sharing the act and personality of the child.
- Disgusting to shame a child for congenital, physiological features. You don’t shame him for his foot size and eye color.
- Don't be cold, arrogant, and detached. You - not the Snow Queenand mom. Where can a child in this life get a warm affection, a gentle look and a loving heart, if not from the mother?
- Do not scare children by their own psychopathic manifestations and punishments. Raise a psychopath. Or plunge the person into a phobic anxiety disorder.
- Do not press per child. Let him do it his way. Most likely, such a parent is psychopathic and the child, being frightened, is inferior to him in life.
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If the parent is in a hurry Bustler, then does not allow any process to mature and occur independently. The child grows up amorphous and insecure, because the mother showed initiative and activity.
- It happens that the parent is illiterate ignorant … And the father - a choleric person loudly perplexes about the speed of thinking and movements of his son - a phlegmatic person, calling him a "brake" or "stupid." And he does not know that Phlegmatic and Choleric occupy extreme, opposite positions on the line of temperaments.
- Of course, boundaries are needed when raising a child. Now we are talking about the boundaries that need to be exposed to the unbelted parent. And who will set these boundaries? The child is small, dependent and suggestible. This article is about the permissive parent. An article about the permissive child is ahead.
- A toxic parent vampirically draws energy, self-esteem, health and destiny from the child. A living and sensitive child is hurt by such treatment. The parent treats the child like soulless doll. The demonic parent eats away at the child's soul.
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