2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it, a lesson for all parents …
Once upon a time there was a boy who pleased mom and dad with exemplary behavior, excellent appetite, letters from kindergarten, and everything was fine with him. And then he suddenly became capricious and whiny, nightmares appeared, long-forgotten fears returned, and the boy began to fight on the playground, and the teachers began to complain to their parents about their son. Then mom and dad got together, took the boy with them and the three of them came to the psychologist. They say that they offend him, probably in the garden, only the boy does not say anything to his parents.
The psychologist watched and looked at the family, whispered about something with the boy, showed pictures, and then said to his parents: "Tell me, dear ones, how do you live, how do you spend your evenings?" - and looks so sly. Mom looked at dad, and let's shed tears: "It's bad," he says, "we live, we swear, we call each other with swear words, we throw things." Here dad intelligently enters into the conversation and makes an important remark: “Only we are educated and educated people, albeit hot-tempered, and we know that it is unacceptable to quarrel in front of a child, therefore, our son has never seen our scandals, and he never heard abusive words, and that's for sure ".
And even earlier it became clear to the psychologist why the boy wet himself at night and broke someone else's toy. Only the parents do not understand anything. Then the psychologist says: “You, mom and dad, you can no longer hide your quarrels, because the boy already knows about them. He sees that his mother is sad, and sighs anxiously, and no longer does her hair, and bakes pancakes less often; and daddy sits on the sofa alone in the evenings, and doesn’t give momma flowers, and don’t give her coat in a strange way, and doesn’t praise borscht; and dad and mom do not laugh anymore, and they didn’t go to the theater, and dad washes his back now, and earlier mom helped him. The boy does not understand what happened, fantasizes, worries, blames himself. And that is why he has bad dreams, and monsters have settled in the corner of the room …”.
Mom and Dad are looking at each other: “What to do? - ask - We love the boy…. and each other, probably, too … "The psychologist continues:" You need to come together, without a boy, solve your problems, agree on business and live happily. Then the boy will please you again, teach poetry, and stop hurting. And if in the future you have grounded mutual claims, then speak them at a family dinner, in a calm voice and cultured words, without interrupting each other and bringing your proposals for discussion. And the boy will benefit from this, teach him not to admit conflicts, to behave beautifully in disputes”.
Mom and Dad left, puzzled, they even forgot to say "thank you". And the psychologist stood at the window to think about them, and sees how mom and dad took the boy's hands and walk together, albeit in silence. And the boy's gait became somehow … more confident, or something …
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