The Crisis. How To Get Out? Part 3

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When a person finds himself in a crisis situation for him, then most often he tries not to break down. In other words, he is trying to hold on rather strongly to those values and meanings of his life, which, under the influence of the crisis, have already lost their relevance.

A person spends considerable energy on this process of holding on to the past. At the same time, he does so only because it is difficult for him to accept the present. Indeed, in such a situation (crisis), the present is always frightening. Because, in it, everything or much will not be the same as before.

But such retention of the past and the use of past experience do not give the desired result. Essentially, the person is slipping into automatic responses that may have helped him enjoy life in the past. However, in the present this help no longer works.

That is why it is worth paying attention to what can be enjoyable in the present. Albeit in small quantities, but it is important to develop a habit of consciously approaching this, and not using automatic reactions that can even harm.

In addition, such a hook on the past does not allow us to understand the very meaning of the crisis. And it also does not allow a person to see the options for getting out of it. If we conditionally divide a person's past life into two levels, the level of victories and the level of defeats. Then most often a person returns himself to the level of defeat, which negatively affects his emotional state.

It's like the house example. When the house has two and a half floors, then the windows of the lower, basement, in fact, are located flush with the ground, the first is slightly higher and, accordingly, the second is even higher. On which floor a person is located, his ability to see the world around depends. From the windows of the basement, the view will be extremely poor and will not allow you to see much of what is happening on the street. And if you compare, then the view from the windows of the second floor will be better and you can see more.

So the level of lesions is the very basement floor. It turns out that by returning and clinging to the past, even if it is an experience, a person deprives himself of himself in order to see new opportunities. And even more so to move to the second floor, which can be conditionally considered the level of victories. After all, you must admit that when we are in a state of victory, a lot seems to us less terrible.

In practice, most often a person gets in the way of his own thoughts and feelings. And managing them is always difficult. In such a situation, it will be useful to learn how to switch your attention from thoughts to feelings. This can be done by concentrating your attention on bodily sensations for a certain period of time. Example: "What are my legs, feet, hands feeling now." At the same time, we carefully listen to the sensations. When feelings are overwhelmed, you can switch to some kind of activity, up to physical exercise. 15-20 squats are fine.

The main goal is to return to the past as little as possible at such moments of the passage of the crisis, since such a return only aggravates the negative state.

Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.