2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I'm not talking about physical pain - but about the pain that each of us experiences from time to time - mental and emotional. It seems to arise for no particular reason.
Pain is our subconscious mind's way of bridging the gap between the true self and fictional illusions. This gap between the real I and the stereotyped plastic, correct, invented I is formed in childhood and has existed for more than one generation - with our parents and ancestors.
Pain is a signal to pay attention to. This applies to both physical and emotional pain. It exists in order to draw our attention to the problem, to immerse our attention inward, to figure out what went wrong - and to eliminate the cause of the "breakdown".
There are several ways to deal with emotional discomfort
1. The oldest and most famous - alcohol and drugs. As a result of the use of such substances, sensitivity is dulled. Yes, we harm our health, however, when the pain becomes unbearable, we follow the path of least resistance and drink.
2. The second method is still not very popular. However, many of us have heard of people who coped with pain without alcohol and drugs. They have found a way to live more harmoniously, they look happy and content with life. If you ask such people how they did it, you will learn that there is a certain way of knowing yourself. This path is confusing, very incomprehensible, full of abstractions. There are no clear landmarks on it and no one knows where to start. And our mind, which is used to thinking in stereotyped categories and looking for easy ways, finds thousands of reasons not to take the first step. But if you have the courage to be determined to face your own pain, the motivating power of intention will kick in. You will begin to meet the correct information, people, events. Step by step, you will begin to recognize yourself. And recognizing himself, a person becomes more honest, feeling, stops deceiving, begins to do what he wanted for a long time. Learn not to be afraid of bad and good grades, to live from the inner response and do what makes him happy.
And then you no longer need to drown out the pain - you will be able to realize and eradicate the causes of its occurrence. It's really simple. But given the gap between the senses and the mind, between the conscious and the unconscious, learning to feel can be difficult at times. But pain, no matter how unbearable it may seem at times, is an excellent guide to knowing oneself.
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