The Destructive Aggression Of The Psychopath And The Thirst For Love

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Express aggression in a socially acceptable way: words "no", "I am angry", "I am annoyed", I do not agree "," it is unpleasant for me "," It does not suit me "," Stop. " his childish powerlessness, helplessness in front of a big and terrible world. Or omnipotence, a complex of God - like a rapist who follows the path of destroying all boundaries. But in essence he is also a child. The age of a psychopath - from 3 to 5 years - is a child who falls into store and kicks its feet on the floor, because it hasn’t received a toy right now, hasn’t received the love it needs. It can bite mom’s hand, push a passing aunt, spit in someone’s face, and all this is done by a child out of impotence …

A psychopath is essentially a severely deprived child

For some adults, this habit is fixed and goes into a permanent form of building relationships with the world. I do not know how much it is possible, by an effort of will, at least at the behavioral level, to change this pattern by waving fists and splashing saliva, yelling obscenities and threatening. I understand that this is so difficult. But if such a person is aware of his problem, then this is a great chance to change something in his relations with people.

As a result, such psychopathic behavior leads to loneliness, from which the person then suffers so much, it leads to a complete breakdown of contacts with those who are dear and close (maybe). But as luck would have it, it always turns out that it is harder to love those people who need love the most … Look, maybe someone who behaves like a psychopath experiences such a strong hunger for love, needs it so badly (like a child), and requires it so much that he is ready to destroy everything around him, just to get this love. But alas, over and over again everything turns out like in childhood: mother's hand slaps on the pope and love melts like a soap bubble. And all his life a person with a similar childhood trauma is looking for evidence not that love exists, but that it does not exist and that the world is hostile, and of course he finds what he is looking for, because he bites off the hand of love extended to him, he torments it, bites with its teeth in fear of never again getting a tidbit - love. And to prove that everyone around is enemies and there is no love, very little is needed, you just need to attack, provoke a fight, an argument until you turn blue in the face, offend, strike.. and now the wisdom of life - all people are enemies - has been proven.

In childhood, parents give such people two small narrow tubes - for each eye into which they look and see only a piece of the world - a narrow and small one the size of a hole in a tube, and if you are lucky, a psychotherapist will appear in the field of vision in this narrowed field of view.