2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The pain won't last long
if we don’t help her …
Brian Andreas
A psychopath is a sophisticated manipulator who consciously (or unconsciously) hurts others without suffering through reproaches of conscience or a sense of responsibility.
Psychopaths are much closer than it might seem at first glance.
Here are some signs that you are in a relationship with a psychopath (or not the norm):
- If your partner gets bored in an instant from communicating with you, this is not normal.
- If you are called jealous or mentally ill, while actively cheating on you and provoking you, this is not normal.
- If you're desperate for a phone call or message that your partner started sending every minute, that's not normal.
- If all of his exes were mentally ill or madly in love with him, this is not normal.
Psychopaths are emotionally underdeveloped and unable to change and accept change.
As soon as the psychopath disappears from your life, you notice that everything around begins to fill with meaning again. Chaos dissipates and peace of mind returns to you.
Another very important symptom that a psychopath is around you is the constant formation of love triangles by him.
To get closer to you, the psychopath creates an aura of desire around him: everyone wants him and everyone is crazy about him.
And for you this should be a source of pride, because it was you who were chosen from the crowd and they devote their time to you (and they will tell you about this more than once).
The psychopath creates the illusion of his own popularity by surrounding himself with members of the opposite sex. After that, he forms triangles that create competition and help raise his value.
There are three main characters in the psychopath's love triangles:
- You. Instead of feeling ashamed, like most normal people, a psychopath, when cheating, crawls out of his skin to let you know about infidelity. But, of course, it is not openly recognized. The standard set includes: open flirting with others (very often through FB) and bragging about all the people who wanted to get into his bed. When you react in a certain way, he calls you a mentally ill jealous person. He is ambivalent, condescending, and constantly makes you doubt your relationship.
- New victim. The psychopath is not yet interested in bullying a new victim, but he will use your self-destruction (which will definitely be in a relationship with a psychopath) to lure the next favorite. When you start to "lose your head" it will be very easy for him to create empathy for himself, especially by showing her or him your desperate messages. The mask that the psychopath wears gives him the opportunity to appear innocent, abused (from you) and one who requires protection (from you).
- Fan club. The psychopath is very keen on feeding friendships. He gently engages his friends in serious conversations about how his current relationship is making him suffer. The psychopath wants to make sure his fans stay close, applauding even louder as he presents them with a new victim and a new ideal life. And every such proof of support that his psychopath receives from friends, further confuses you.
After a breakup, when in most normal people, the possible entry into a new relationship is accompanied by silence and embarrassment, the psychopath openly brags about the new relationship. Even more surprising, the psychopath expects you to be happy for him. Otherwise, you will be branded as jealous and cruel.
After a breakup, the psychopath evaluates your behavior. If you humiliate yourself or ask him to return, he may recognize the value in your efforts. Your behavior will be both disgusting and pleasant for him. If you lash out at him, exposing deception, he will do anything to break you.
Even if after a while you still return to him and ask for forgiveness, the psychopath will constantly humiliate you for daring to argue with him.
Don't try to win the game the psychopath is playing with you. You cannot win under any conditions, because the psychopath will check and checkmate on you at a time when it seems to you that you are playing checkers.
So you better back off. Put a point without contact - this is the path to your salvation.
At some point, you will start to "cover" very much and there will be an intolerable desire to write to all his "mentally ill" exes, because you will very much need support and understanding from "sisters or brothers in misfortune" … Do not do this! You will not have any self-interest from this, but he will be able to take advantage of your "weakness". You remember that this is a psychopath!
Watch! When you suddenly restrict his access to your emotional resources, he will start to "twitch" and "blunt" … And also make gross mistakes.
You will be able to verify the correctness of your decision by observing and recording these chaotic throwing. You will notice cheap ways to form triangles again and get your attention.
But you can observe and record only if you are already strong enough to withstand the heat of emotions that will accompany this process.
If this topic is interesting, as well as who and why falls into the category of "victims" and how to get out of such a relationship, leave comments and it will continue …
(From Jackson McKensey's How To Break Away From Toxic Relationships And Avoid Victimization)
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