2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In a typical session, an emotionally focused therapist is busy with:
- Tracks the level of the therapeutic alliance. "I feel that this is a difficult process for you, can I somehow support you more?"
- Reflects secondary emotions. “And you get very angry when this happens because here, whatever you do, you will lose. And I understand (to another partner) that this anger is unexpected for you, like a bolt from the blue."
- Reflects deep emotions. “That is, something like this happens - when he speaks, turns his back on you, you are seized by something like panic, right? And you can feel it right now as he turns his back on you."
- Recognizes current reactions … “I’m beginning to understand that it’s a natural way for you to cope with difficult experiences that is closing in. In general, it protected you all your life."
- Confirms the emotions just experienced. “It is very difficult for you when your wife says that you have disappointed her. You may look unflappable, but in fact it makes you very bad."
Awakens responses:
“What happens to you when you hear your wife talking to you like that? When she says this, you feel cornered and deprived of your rights. How do you feel when you hear her voice?"
- “What happened now? Anna said that in this relationship she never felt cared for, then you closed your mouth tightly and folded your arms over your chest."
"That this part of you is the part that told you never to open up, so you never get hurt again, what is this part telling you right now?"
- Enhances. “You can say it again:“Tolik you don’t see me”.” Look at Anatoly and say it."
- Makes empathic assumptions. “I don’t know if I understand correctly. It’s somehow so, if he doesn’t want sex with me every day, then I’ve lost him.”
- Tracks and reflects interactions. “What happened now? You said … and then you said …"
- Redefines the behavior of each of the partners in the context of the cycle. “This is a dangerous space for both of you right now. You feel like you need to protest that Ivan is distant, but Ivan scares you. This only confirms once again that you need to look for a place to hide."
- Restructures interaction. “You can tell her that. Ivan, could you tell Elena - "I don't know how to come and be closer, I don't know how."
When it comes to bringing a client into contact with difficult emotions, what is called VOPRMS.
Repeat. It is important to repeat your keywords and phrases several times.
Image. Images are more emotional than abstract words.
Just. Words and phrases should be as short and concise as possible.
Measured. An emotional experience unfolds in the session; this is not a quick process.
Soft. A quiet, caring voice soothes and supports deeper experiences, and also helps to take risks.
In the words of the client. The emotionally focused therapist notes, accepts, and uses the client's words and phrases to create an environment of cooperation and acceptance.
Literature:
Johnson M. Practice of Emotionally Focused Marriage Therapy
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