COVERING AGGRESSION. Practical Techniques And Methods

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Perhaps aggression, anger is the most forbidden emotion in our society. From early childhood, they explained to us that it is impossible to be angry, that swearing is not good, that you cannot dare, you cannot snap, you cannot throw things, you cannot pull your hair. Anything that a child begins to do in an attempt to cope with his aggression is condemned, punished, and taboo.

It is important to remember that aggression is a NORMAL, NATURAL reaction to dissatisfaction and to the threat of dissatisfaction with the need, as well as to the violation of personal boundaries. As natural as fear, as joy, as surprise, as any emotional state in general. Any emotion is a reaction. This is a signal of what is right and what is wrong, how it should be and how it should not be. But from childhood we are taught to suppress the emotion of anger. Why?

First, because such a reaction to the child's aggression is passed on from generation to generation. What our parents forbade us, we will forbid our children. Secondly, because adults often do not find the resources in themselves to withstand the onslaught of aggression, to figure out what is going on, to provide support.

Not expressed anger remains in the body as muscle blocks, clamps, manifests itself in spasms (clenched jaw, clenched fists, tense facial muscles, etc.). Further, this can lead to neurosis, depression, psychosomatic diseases (neurodermatitis, folded nails, crumbling teeth, liver disease, joints, inflammation, viral infections, etc.), auto-aggression - aggression directed at oneself (alcoholism, tobacco addiction, self-harm, fractures, extreme sports with a risk to life).

So, of course, the aggression needs to be spilled out! Another thing is that you need to learn how to do this environmentally, without harming yourself or others.

So, what are the ways to unload aggression?

1 way. You can take several (8-10) dozen eggs, go out into nature so that no one sees you and break the eggs on the ground, on the trees. At the same time, shouting angry curses, not observing censorship, you can use foul language, scold your bosses, parents, shop assistants, your spouse, fate, God, the government as you please.

Method 2. Take a few slices of bread (not sliced) and start tearing it with your hands, crumbling, gnawing with your teeth, as if you are tearing apart prey or an enemy (not eating, namely, gnawing and spitting out).

Method 3. Take a roll of old wallpaper. Expand them and begin to write out in very large letters everything that you are unhappy with, that annoys you, that annoys you, and causes rage. You can not only write out words, but also scribble zigzags, draw monsters that your offenders appear to be. Then, when you feel that you have "unsubscribed", tear the paper into small pieces. It is desirable that the paper be thick so that it is difficult to tear it. Newsprint will not have the same effect as a heavy roll.

Method 4. Take a decorative pillow and start hitting it. Not only like a punching bag, but also with chopping movements, as if a small child is beating the offender or as if you are knocking on the door with all your might. You can't beat the pillow you sleep on !!! You can also kick and trample her.

Method 5. When you are angry with your partner, colleague, friend, usually you throw out your anger with curses, call names, start insulting the person who at the moment introduces himself as the offender. Instead of insulting words, replace with "I am angry! I am angry! I am furious! I am furious with such words / actions." Talk about your feelings instead of commenting on the actions and personality of the other.

Method 6. Take a hammer, old unusable household appliances, plates, old furniture, go to the dump and start smashing it all with a hammer. Of course, it is important to observe safety measures: put on safety glasses so that the debris does not get to your eyes, put on gloves, clothes more tightly.

Method 7. Old, worn clothes come in handy here. Dresses, trousers, T-shirts, in a word, those things that you know for sure will no longer be worn. And start ripping these clothes to shreds. You can pre-cut with scissors to make it easier.

All of the above techniques, actions, can and should be accompanied by shouts, swearing, growling. You need to shout not from your throat, but from your chest, with all the strength of your voice.

The state of aggression requires destructive actions. If you accumulate in yourself a sufficient amount of suppressed aggression, then it, one way or another, will begin to splash out on your loved ones: on your wife, husband, in the form of beatings of children, pets, all those who are weaker and will not be able to give back. Allow yourself to periodically unload on a planned basis. Use any of the above techniques (or several).

Also, relaxation techniques will help. But relaxation techniques by themselves will not get rid of suppressed anger, they go only as an accompaniment to the already splashed out aggression, as a prophylaxis. Relaxation techniques will not release muscle clamps or release the compressed energy trapped in the body.

The body, the inner animal, will still demand destruction, destructive action. Allow yourself a little "crush" enough! Bite bread, break dishes. And come home tired, but contented and happy. And most importantly - GOOD!:)