2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How parental attitudes divide a woman with money
There is nothing wrong with parental attitudes. Parents have the right to their opinion, their outlook on life, their attitude to money, how to run a household, shop, live in short supply and save on everything, or live in grand style and be in eternal debt.
Problems begin when a woman blindly copies her parenting strategies without adding anything of her own.
“My mom always did that,” “Dad always said that,” and so on. Following the parental rules and values, a woman never comes into her own contact with money, her own relationship. The notorious separation even in financial matters does not happen!
Based on parental experience, and for this it is important to know well what kind of losses the parents had, what kind of wealth, how they distributed money, what thoughts they used to maintain a state of deficit within themselves, a woman is able to achieve something of her own.
Example 1. Mom denied herself everything and bought the best for her daughter, and she was content with the leftovers. The daughter is growing up either with a sense of guilt that now she owes her mother, although such a strategy - to push herself in and infringe on everything - was the parent's choice. Or grows as a consumer, believing that everyone owes her by definition. Or she herself grows up as a person who infringes upon herself in everything, in all three strategies she maintains a merger with her mother: "Mom, I am like you, I will never leave you or betray you."
Example 2. Mom denied herself everything and bought the best for her daughter, and she was content with the leftovers. The daughter grows up with an inner understanding that this is her mother's choice, and she is not responsible for it. For herself, she concludes that she will not do this, the feeling of chronic deficiency maintains an inferiority complex and uncertainty about the future. A woman thinks over her rules in relations with herself and money and thereby leaves the "mother's world", "mother's attitudes and limitations", leaves the merger into her personal life.
Through example No. 2, financial growth for a woman and self-reliance, self-confidence and confidence in the future are also likely. Because it is not fears and scarcity that affect her (as in example # 1), but she herself affects herself!
How ancestral prohibitions divide a woman with money
The attitude to money, the ability to contact with it, manage and control is laid in the family. And through the family, any person is transferred to patterns of behavior in which several generations could live. Heavy stories, fatal choices and losses, secrets and betrayal all of this has an invisible effect on us, whether we like it or not.
For example:
1. Shame
A toxic and adopted feeling that comes from the family system, it connects generations by a blood thread and a knot is formed that torments a person - it's a shame to take or ask for money, it's a shame to admit that I don't know how or I don't understand, it's a shame to declare myself to people, to manifest and much more. The longer a person carries in himself these painful experiences, the deeper they penetrate into all spheres of his life, especially financial.
2. Wines
Toxic and borrowed feeling from the family system. Anything can be behind the guilt in a person's life - a story about betrayal and a story about an abortion or murder, deliberate or accidental, and a story about deception or theft. There is no point in investigating, it is important to find a solution. Otherwise, a woman runs the risk of forever remaining in difficult experiences that have nothing to do with her at all. But she is always to blame for everything. Money will never appear where there is a lot of guilt.
3. Fears
Fears are different. Those that give us strength, make us move and do something to avoid trouble are personal feelings. But those fears that take away our strength and energy, paralyze us in actions, I understand, but I don't; I know, but I sit and wait by the sea for the weather - these are toxic and adopted fears coming from the family system. In this state, it is easier for a woman to drain money and opportunities than to go beyond the generic prohibition, for example: "sit and be silent" or "do not stick your head out, you will be healthier."
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