Orgasm Psychotherapy

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Having passed a long and thorny path from the dark Middle Ages to the present day, interest in human sexuality continues to grow. This is largely due to the acceleration processes and the problems in society with which they are associated. It is now obvious that the growing problems of the adolescent environment, the tasks of forming harmonious relationships in the family, the tasks of strengthening the health of citizens and many others cannot be considered in isolation from the laws of the development of the human sexual sphere.

Even in ancient times in the East, sexual relations were considered not from the point of view of morality and morality, but from the standpoint of physical and spiritual health. So the Taoist sexual teaching "Healing Love", which originated in ancient China, believed and still believes that an active sex life is the key to health and longevity. The Taoists believed that marital happiness and a harmonious family are impossible without sexual harmony.

In their medical practice, ancient doctors used the knowledge of reflexological active points, mirrored on the male and female genital organs, and associated with various organs and parts of the human body. So the points of the heart are located on the head of the male penis and in the region of the cervix in women. The liver points are located in the middle parts of the penis and vagina. The kidney points are located at the base of the penis and at the entrance to the vagina. Thus, using different postures and the relative position of bodies in intercourse, you can influence various organs and systems and heal them.

Much attention in "Healing Love" is paid to the psychological side of sexual relations. Great mutual love is impossible without love for oneself and acceptance of oneself with all the advantages and disadvantages. Feelings of anger, irritation and other negative emotions affect our body and health as a powerful poison. They can destroy harmony in bed and love relationships.

Modern knowledge about the physiological processes occurring in the body of men and women also indicates that the main purpose of effective sexual functioning is its healing effect. Achieving the peak of sexual intimacy by a woman not once, but regularly and for a sufficiently long time, leads to the improvement of the respiratory system, improves the cardiac activity of not only the woman, but also her partner. Allocated at the time of orgasmic discharge, special substances, when they enter the blood of partners, help to improve immunity. The hormonal cocktail, which is also formed when the peak of intimacy is reached, contributes to the manifestation of feelings of tenderness of partners, affection, and contributes to the creation of harmonious relations in a couple. Happy partners are healthier, stay sexually active longer, live longer, and look younger than their peers.

The overwhelming majority of visitors (mostly women) who come to psychological counseling, one way or another, associate their problems with the opposite sex. And it does not matter at what time these problems have arisen, in the past, present or expected in the future. And this is not necessarily the actual sexual problem. Here and resentment about mutual inattention and misunderstanding of partners, rudeness and disrespect. Problems in raising children, relationships with parents, feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, lack of personal growth, problems of choice, etc.

Complaints about sexual functioning are also natural. Here and the partner's insufficient attention to foreplay, and sexual dysfunction, and premature ejaculation, and anorgasmia, vaginismus, lack of attraction, problems of sexual arousal, problems of hypersexuality, sexual and love addiction, sexual boredom in marriage, adultery. In the complaints of visitors, all this is clothed in neurotic manifestations of VSD, panic attacks, various phobias, obsessive states, depressive disorders, and chronic fatigue. Physically disturbed by constant or recurrent headaches, pain and discomfort in various areas of the spine and joints, spasm of the pelvic floor muscles, problems with pinching (sciatic nerve, etc.), menstrual irregularities, other problems in the gynecological area, diseases of various organs and systems.

Neurotic reactions in a child are formed in early childhood, when a lack of parental love, disbelief in his ability to achieve something meaningful, the child's acceptance of guilt for poor parental attitudes or parental attitudes toward themselves, lead to the formation of special relationships with the world and with oneself. In the same period, the personality of the mother and father form their views on the world around them, preferences and relationships, including sexual ones, in the world of adults. At the same time, especially in the later adolescence, the nervous apparatus of the sexual functioning system is formed. The time factor is especially important here. The formation of neurotic reactions in childhood, the wrong and ignorant attitude of parents to the problems of sexual education of a teenager will lead to the consequences that ultimately lead a person to the office of a psychotherapist, psychologist, sexologist.

We must understand for sure that if the consequences of the shortcomings of education are not corrected, incl. and sexual, further good sexual functioning is not possible. Any psychotherapy method can be very effective. You can teach how to relax, recover quickly and effectively, teach how to accumulate and direct vital energy in the right direction. You can change a person's attitude to what he was deprived of in childhood, change his neurotic strategies and tactics, learn to accept himself and the world as they are. You can work out the complexes and consequences of psychotraumas. But without appropriate qualified influences, it is impossible to "repair" the flaws in the system of sexual functioning. This can be done with the help of a specialist sexologist, less often independently on the basis of sexological self-education. And without this, fundamental changes in attitudes towards the world, towards oneself and towards a partner are impossible. These changes are possible only on the basis of gaining confidence in their functioning in the main spheres of life - the ability to love and be loved, needed.

What psychotherapeutic opportunities are inherent in high-quality sexual functioning?

This is an increase in the production of the hormone oxytocin, which causes feelings of tenderness, trust, and affection. The action of this hormone brings partners together emotionally, contributes to the formation of stable harmonious relationships, to the creation and strengthening of a family.

After orgasmic discharge, in the phase of reverse development, a kind of cocktail of a number of antipsychotics is formed in the brain, including natural opiates - enkephalins and endorphins. The production of female hormones - estrogens - also increases. Under the influence of these natural drugs, a feeling of euphoria, bliss appears, tension decreases, anxiety and thoughts of problems go away. This in itself, without additional psychotherapy, becomes an effective prevention of future anxiety and depression.

With a strong release of endorphins, neurotic symptoms can disappear for several hours or even days: phobias, depression, hypochondriacal disorders. The increased production of estrogen facilitates the course of PMS, improves mood.

With regular exposure to this "magic cocktail" for 2 - 3 years, beneficial changes in the character of a woman take place. Her experiences and behavior become more flexible and varied. She successfully combines rationality and prudence with softness, tenderness and affection.

If a woman does not regularly achieve orgasmic discharge, then a number of negative psychosomatic manifestations are observed. Unpleasant sensations in the lower abdomen, headache with manifestations of irritability, resentment, anger. Long-term dislike for a partner who has not met expectations may arise. Sexologists know the "failed orgasm syndrome", in which women can experience feelings of heaviness, pressure, soreness, even itching in the genitals. When contacting a gynecologist, they are diagnosed with chronic inflammation of the appendages, chronic colpitis, and endometriosis. Moreover, traditional gynecological treatment gives only a temporary effect.

During the "plateau" phase and during the actual orgasm, the woman secretes the so-called ESE (natural stimulants of erection), which contribute to the maximum blood circulation in the male penis. Such filling naturally occurs in men only in adolescence, with an increased background of testosterone. For several minutes, the man again experiences a state of sexual power. In the male subculture, this state determines his self-esteem, how much he has taken place in life as a man. Constant and regular interaction with a well-orgasmic woman for several years allows a man to effectively cope with states of depression and depression due to acute life situations. Such men are easier to cope with neurotic disorders.

Such men often acquire a "second youth" already in old age. They are more active, achieve good results in their business, get sick less often, look younger and live longer.

Well-functioning partners are much less likely to suffer from "sexual boredom", they have fewer betrayals and divorces. Women, having acquired the ability for good sexual functioning after psychotherapy, talk about resolving or reducing the severity of many of the problems with which they initially came to consult a psychotherapist.

Of course, effective sexological assistance must be complemented by psychotherapeutic treatment of problems. The key to success is the combination of these two sides of psychotherapy.

Thus, the actual sexual therapy is an effective psychotherapeutic method and has a number of advantages over traditional methods of psychotherapy, because is based on fundamental knowledge of the psychophysical laws of development of the system of human sexual functioning.