2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Albert Einstein, who has an outstanding intelligence, said: “If you want your children to be smart, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be even smarter, read them more stories. The fairy tale not only entertains the child, but also encourages reflection, awakens the imagination and develops the sensual sphere.
A psychotherapeutic tale for children of all ages
I wrote it for my son, two and a half years old, who became afraid of Baba Yaga. Several such tales, the image of an evil old woman was turned into the image of a kind forest grandmother.
Older children, a fairy tale can teach a little more to understand the nature of their negative emotions, show how to control them. The main idea of the fairy tale is for the child to see how often we ourselves invent "enemies" for ourselves, but in fact we are the ones who are unfair to people. It will reveal negative character traits, or vice versa, it will show that the child knows how to build relationships and copes well with difficult situations.
The fairy tale will also introduce the concept of friendship and kindness. After all, in order for you to have a friend, you need to be able to be a friend yourself.
Shows that any business needs to be learned in order to do it well. It's not just about singing like in a fairy tale. But also about how pleasant it is to make gifts with your own hands and give them to friends and relatives, thereby developing in the child the desire for needlework and art.
How Baba Yaga found friends and became kind
In one beautiful forest lived a harmful Baba Yaga. She quarreled with everyone, offended everyone and did various dirty tricks. Either he will break the nest for the birds, then he will cover the chanterelle's mink with sand, then, in general, he will tease the little bear cubs! In the whole large forest, she did not have a single friend.
The Old Man-Lesovichok lived in the same forest. The complete opposite of Baba Yaga, well, that is, he has a completely different character: kind and fair. He always reconciled everyone and helped everyone. And then one day, the Old Man-Lesovichok decided to visit Baba-Yaga and ask why all the animals in the forest complain about her, no one lives from her.
He found a clearing on which Baba-Yaga's hut stands, and says:
- Hut, hut, turn your front to me, and back to the forest!
The hut was so happy that at last someone came to visit him and Baba Yaga, that she jumped up and began to turn around very quickly, dancing. Baba Yaga jumps out of the hut, but as she shouts:
- Who here decided to turn my hut? And who am I giving cuffs now! And who am I going to scold and offend ?!
- Do not scold me, do not abuse, - says the Old Man-Lesovichok, - I came to you in peace! I want to ask, why don't you make friends with the animals of the forest? Why do you offend them, but do you dirty tricks?
- I offend them ?! Yes, they all offend me! No one wants to play with me, no one invites me to visit! Everyone just drives away, but scolds!
- How so? Come on, tell me, Baba Yaga, how you communicate with animals. And I’m going to argue with you somehow. First, explain why you broke the nest of small birds?
- Well, of course … I was walking through the woods one morning and I heard wonderful singing. Yes, it is so beautiful that flowers began to bloom on the heart. I come closer and see that these are birds singing. I asked them to join the choir, they allowed. Well, how I sang! Yes, louder! Already the earth trembled, and their chicks fell out of the nest. How I laughed, how I made fun! And the birds got angry and began to drive me away! It was then that I took their nest from the tree! And what are they!
- Ay-ay-ay, - says the Old Man-Lesovichok, - of course the birds were offended that you rejoiced in their misfortune! After all, the chicks are small, and will not be able to return to the nest themselves. And their parents, small birds, will also not be able to help them in any way …
- Oh oh oh! But what have I done, and even deprived them of their homes! How ashamed to me, how bitter!
- Why didn't the chanterelle displease you?
- And the fox is a cheat! She stole a bucket of sour cream in the village and calmly carries it to her burrow. Well, I took it, said that I would return it to the people. And I wanted sour cream so much that I ate it with pancakes. The fox found out about that, but scolded me. So, out of anger, I covered her burrow with sand.
- How unfair it turned out. The chanterelle is not a thief. She works as a watchman in the village, in people's yards she protects all kinds of animals from wolves, for that people give her sour cream to feed her children.
-How so? It turns out that the fox is not a thief, but I …
Baba Yaga blushed so much that she looked like a fly agaric. And the Old Man-Lesovichok answers:
- It turns out so. Before condemning someone, you need to think many times and ask. And what did you tease the cubs for? Here, kids, cry that day, they are afraid to leave the house!
- And these bastards themselves were the first to tease me! There’s nothing to scold me for!
- But why not! The bear cubs in the raspberry bushes found a mirror, which the village girl dropped, and made their own faces and writhing themselves, having fun as much as they could, because they have no more toys.
At this point, Baba Yaga could not stand it, burst into tears, but how can we lament:
- Here I am cursed, here I am ignorant! Here is such a sinister!
And the Old Man-Lesovichok smiled and said:
- Do not be so killed, your grief is easy to help. You correct your mistakes, apologize and make peace with everyone.
Baba Yaga listened to wise advice, began to think about how she could improve.
First of all, she put together a birdhouse for birds, put fragrant straws inside, meadow flowers, and painted them with the brightest colors. The second thing - I baked pancakes in butter, and poured them with the most delicious raspberry jam. And the third thing - I made all sorts of toys, and a swing for the cubs, so that they would not be bored in the forest.
First I came to the birds, looking, crying, poor things, children are sitting on the ground, they are completely frozen, their parents are warming them with their little wings. And in the sky a thundercloud grows and approaches. Baba Yaga says to them:
- Forgive me, birds, I am to blame! She laughed at your children, but, unfortunately, doomed the bitter one! I want to atone for my guilt! I made you a new house, better than the old one. Neither the wind nor the rain is terrible for you now.
She attached the birdhouse to the tree tightly, warmed the chicks and planted them in the house. Birds flew into it, resounding songs sang, rejoiced! They immediately forgave Baba Yaga and said:
- We are not angry with you anymore. Come to visit us, we will teach you to sing songs too!
Baba Yaga was delighted here too! Finally, she was invited to visit, for the first time in her life. It felt so good. She promised to visit them the other day, and went on.
Now it's the chanterelle's turn to put the house in order and ask for forgiveness. She looked, she was sitting with her foxes near the mink, trying to get the sand, and it was pouring back and forth. Baba Yaga took a broom, swept out all the sand and said to the chanterelle:
- Forgive me, sister, I have slandered you! For this I brought you butter pancakes with foxes and raspberry jam, the most delicious.
- Thank you, Baba Yaga, come to our house, have tea with us!
Baba Yaga did not expect such kindness to herself, as many tears fell from her eyes. She drank tea, took leave, and went to put up with the cubs.
I came to the clearing, but they are not. Then Baba Yaga began to install all sorts of swing-roundabouts. Such a knock and noise was raised that the cubs became curious about what was happening there. They go out into the clearing, and there! What a beauty! A whole playground with slides, swings and a sandbox! The kids squeaked with delight, and ran to the site skipping. Yes, they raised such laughter and screeching that all the forest children ran there.
Children came up to Baba Yaga and said:
- Thank you, grandmother, you are so kind! Come play with us!
Baba Yaga has never been called a grandmother, more and more often a witch, and a feisty hag. She felt so pleasant and joyful that she decided to remain kind.
And the Old Man-Lesovichok looks at her from behind a tree, but he cannot get enough of it.
This is how Baba Yaga turned from an evil hag into a good grandmother. After all, the one who offends another will never find a friend. And to the one who comes with goodness, many times more goodness will return.
A sample list of questions for children (from 4 years old):
- Why were the forest animals and birds angry with Babu Yaga?
- For which Baba Yaga was angry with the inhabitants of the forest.
- What do you do when you are angry with someone?
- What advice did the wise Old Man-Lesovichok give?
- Why did the animals forgive Baba Yaga?
- What did Baba Yaga understand?
- How do you make peace with someone if you quarreled?
- How do you feel when babies are bullied?
- Do you have a lot of friends?
- Do you often say kind words to your friends?
- Do you make gifts for them with your own hands?
- Do you think your friend will be pleased with your handmade gift?
- Do you like it when someone says "thank you" to you?
- Do you often say thank you?
- Why didn't Baba Yaga succeed in singing?
- Do you like learning new things? Do you think this is helpful?
- What conclusion did you make after listening to the fairy tale?
Questions for babies (questions aimed at answering "yes and no", but if the baby can answer, then ask additional questions from brackets):
- Did you like the fairy tale?
- Do you think Baba Yaga is evil? Or maybe a kind one? (Good or bad? Why?)
- Are you still afraid of Baba Yaga? (What's so scary about her?)
- And after she became kind and made peace with everyone, he stopped being afraid?
- Who is the kindest in a fairy tale? (if he cannot name the characters, list and ask: kind?)
- Are you kind? (Who are you the kindest for?)
- Am I kind? (If the child answers "no", then you can ask: when exactly do I turn into Babu Yaga?)
- (remind a little that Baba Yaga made peace with everyone and turned into kind, and ask) Well, are you no longer afraid of Baba Yaga?
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