We Are Very Similar, But Completely Different. "MAMA" - Constitutional Psychotypes

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Start "MAMA" - constitutional theories. Healthy psychosomatics.

I will note right away, since I am not a supporter of diagnostics from articles on the Internet, I will not give clear diagnostic criteria for both the constitutional type (and most of it is mixed with us, and it is the combinations of types that show our differences, our individuality) and psychotype.

The purpose of this article is to visually show women how different we are, and how much our health and psychological comfort depends on whether we accept ourselves as we are, or break ourselves into other people's roles. I am almost sure that in these descriptions every mother recognizes herself and her problems, therefore, as a separate bonus, in order to interest women to allow themselves to be natural, I will write about those exceptional individual abilities that are inherent in a mother of one type or another.

Mom is ideal

Constitution: body - small rectangle, face - triangle. Compact, short, thin, snub-nosed, with freckles and skin prone to a tide of "redness", with curly hair.

What do we see: the world is beautiful and full of surprises, and everything is great and the best for me. A beautiful husband, me and children, a sea of successful friends. Luxurious home, delightful relaxation, exquisite cuisine, unusual appliances. I know about all the new products, I understand psychology, medicine, jurisprudence, etc., I speak 5 languages, play the violin, knit, embroider … but if I need to fix the microwave and lay out the tiles, it's not a problem. And after that I will definitely tell you about all this and show you in detail, to all of you.

What really is: in pursuit of a picture, mom loses herself. Since it is impossible to be perfect in all areas at once, each of them is lived on superficially, more often for show. Mom is emotional (quick-tempered), she does not have the resource of patience. The theories of upbringing are applied with the expectation of an immediate result, therefore they are not brought to the end, which leads to a change in course and a crisis in relations with the child. This and many other things really hit my mother's self-esteem, which forces her to constantly confirm her ideality. Excessive demands (striving for the ideal) lead to unjustified expectations (people are not ideal), frustration, constant conflicts and war with others.

Weak spots: headaches, stool problems, vegetative crises, cardiovascular diseases, addictions, psychotic disorders.

Peculiarity: these are people of holidays, generators of ideas and creative inspiration, the soul of the company, a friend with whom it is always interesting, artists and masters of reincarnation.

Mom care

Constitution: body - hourglass, face - circle. Busty, in body, short, loose-soft, potato nose, hair thin, but lush, slow.

What do we see: I love you all, my house is cozy and open for everyone, because there are no bad people in the world, just everyone has their own truth, if you want to see and understand it. And family and good relations are generally the main thing. A mother should take care and look after children, husband … grandmothers, grandfathers, uncles, aunts. Treat, feed, help in everything. And often to neighbors, needy, sick and abandoned animals, etc. Don't worry about me, I'll take care of myself somehow, the main thing is that you have everything in order.

What really is: Mom is most often exhausted and neglected (externally or internally), saves on herself, lives with other people's problems. Everyone sits on it with their legs dangling, and it serves everyone until it is completely eaten. When mom is exhausted, her concern turns into overprotectiveness, fuss, obsession, impudence and tactlessness (she just wants to help you …), which causes conflicts with others. A mother who wants to be good to everyone and avoids conflicts begins to suppress negativity, which leads to psychosomatic diseases (I have never met such mothers with relatively healthy conditions ().

Weak spots: gastrointestinal tract, musculoskeletal system (muscles), prone to all kinds of inflammatory processes, obesity, somatized depression, anxiety disorders.

Peculiarities: diplomatic and tolerant, caring and disinterested, owners of a synthetic type of thinking (they create genius out of nothing, out of seemingly unrelated things).

Mom sample

Constitution: the body is a large thin rectangle, the face is an oval. Tall, thin, constrained, fair-skinned, sparse blonde hair, long fingers.

What do we see: no chaos and disorder. Everything is always in its place, clean, tidy, I am the queen of order. I always plan everything and have time, I have no problems with priorities. Relationships with people are formal, because sincerity and revelation are for loved ones. But I am a guarantor of stability, support, you can trust me and I know how to make decisions and take responsibility for them. If I take on something, I will bring it to the quality standard.

What really is: This mom is a perfectionist who can go crazy with any job that falls short of the standard. And she will redo it as many times as necessary, until she is completely exhausted and frustrated. These mothers suffer very much from an overabundance of corporeality with a child, because they are not used to letting people so close and so often. sensory deprivation is her trauma”, a mistake of her parents that she cannot repeat (delusion). It is difficult for her to get along with people, she does not trust nannies, grandmothers, and a child who violates the established order at home brings her to internal hysteria. But she is an exemplary mother, she has no right to be angry with the child, the more the child behaves in accordance with the laws of development, so there is no choice but to swallow her emotions or line up the child on the line. The first situation is a direct path to psychosomatic problems, the second situation is a direct path to constant provocations and resistance on the part of the child - the whole life is a struggle.

Weak spots: Skin and Hair Problems, Respiratory System Disorders, Stool Disorders, OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorders), BD (Bipolar Disorder).

Peculiarities: reliability, rationality, neatness, cleanliness, orderliness, polished logic, ideal for planning, creating algorithms, ordering and organizing.

Contemplative mother

Constitution: body - guitar, face - trapezoid or square. Broad-hipped, powerful, even if short, full-elastic, with thick thick hair, duck nose, "gray" skin.

What do we see: I don't care what you think of me, I am what I am and this is the main thing. Life is a philosophy, everyone has their own meaning, therefore do not impose your own on me and I will be mutually polite. The main thing is to be natural, natural. Everything that I'm not comfortable with doesn't make sense, I take only what I need and do only what I am interested in, which will bring me some benefit, otherwise why all this fuss?

What really is: I would like to write that this mother has no problems, tk. she is indifferent to what others think of her. But her problems do begin when she and her child interact with society, and without this, there is nothing in our life. The upbringing of children takes place either according to the principle of indifference and permissiveness or in the fanatical framework of some specific psychological (esoteric or religious) movement. In order to be accepted in society, such mothers often begin to "represent themselves not what they really are", deceive, behave like any of the described types, in order to get what they want - true manipulators. They are so transformed into an image that they themselves begin to believe in their legend, and then it becomes difficult for them to understand what is true for them and what is not. To figure it out, they need time for in-depth analysis, and they take a pause through illness or withdrawal in any other way.

Weak spots: urinary system, musculoskeletal system (bones, joints), BD (bipolar disorder), ERP (eating disorders), phobias.

Peculiarities: self-sufficient, bring their business to the end, intellectual analysts, good fantasy and imagination, very strong in analysis.

Mom is a winner

Constitution: body and face - a large triangle. Broad-shouldered, muscular, dark-skinned, tall, flexible, strong, nose with a hump, curly hair.

What do we see: the end justifies the means! There are no barriers for me, I will do everything to make my child successful. We will win all competitions and competitions, we will graduate from school with a gold medal and go to Harvard … or maybe somewhere better, we will work in the most prestigious firms, win the best woman for our son and select only a successful husband for our daughter! And from the very beginning I will provide everything that will help in this. I need to make money - I will work until my pulse is lost, I need to organize a diet and regimen for the child - I will tirelessly carry out every item that will lead us to victory. Since childhood, I will teach him only to high-quality things and toys, prestigious institutions, the right people, etc., and my head was spinning with success while I was writing!

What really is: striving to “conquer the whole world”, a mother often does not see or hear the feelings, emotions and needs of the child, who most often of a different psychotype and wants to count butterflies on the river bank, and not at Harvard studying from the age of 10 (These mothers really achieve a lot and achieve, but real life flies by, with real human relationships, jokes, closeness, communication, feelings, enjoying each other and happy moments of life, including motherhood (when a mother goes to work from the first days of a baby's life), and since Mom also needs all this, problems begin in the family, BUT their mother also decides by leaving for work or other activity.

Weak spots: liver, lowered immunity, diseases of the eyes, tendons, etc., PR (panic disorder).

Peculiarities: purposeful and responsible, energetic and most efficient, self-confident, strong-willed, pioneers, productive.

As I already wrote, these types are mixed, and only by the totality of physiological and psychological parameters (including health, appearance and psychological attitudes), we understand what is more “in mom”, what is less, respectively, which problems are more relevant and methods solutions are more efficient. But in the format of this article, to solve the problems of each of the types there is solutions that will help you not to slide into a psychological hole:

1. To understand and accept that we are all different and that mothers who seem ideal to us have both their positive sides and problems that we do not know about. And when we begin to live by someone else's model (breaking ourselves into someone else's image), this only leads to disappointment and somatic problems (they broke ourselves and hooked someone else's brainworm).

2. See your own characteristics (understand that not everyone has the gift that you have) and make them resourceful.

3. Note where we are going overboard and work on bringing these qualities into the golden mean with opposites.

4. Use "foreign" models as a tool. When we like something from the "alien" psychotype, do not break ourselves for another person, but understand what quality we like, why we need it and use it only in those situations where it is necessary, and not demand from ourselves its obligatory cultivation and education in the structure of the personality for all occasions.

5. Love yourself and develop;)