2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you want to improve your personal life and relationships with the opposite sex, get more pleasure from sex, increase your self-esteem - try dancing classes. Dance is the hidden language of the soul. And a good diagnosis of problems in the sexual sphere and intimacy. Pair dances accurately reflect your model of relationships with the opposite sex in life and in sex. The ability to let go of control, the ability to keep your boundaries and not stick to others. Self-esteem and our childhood traumas received in relationships with parents. And since they do reflect, it means that, firstly, you can realize your problem, and secondly, you can correct it. And at the same time - start dancing.
For men - learn not to subjugate a woman and make her comfortable, but to gently lead and firmly lead a partner, become more confident and sensual, feel a woman. To learn without collapsing to be without armor, imperfect and vulnerable in intimacy with a woman. After all, we are all imperfect and each is beautiful in its own way.
And a woman should accept a partner, not be ashamed of herself in contact with another, relax, trust, withstand a state of uncertainty where and how the man will lead. To give up the desire to be capricious, predict, lead and control everything in life - yes, of course, this is for fear of not living up to expectations or fear of uncertainty, but this passes over time.
Also dancing is a great way to sublimate sexual energy. For both men and women. For someone, communication with one partner is not enough, you don’t want to change your loved one, besides, culture imposes certain prohibitions and restrictions. If the power of the libido is strong enough, it is better to admit it than to bring yourself to neurosis, and find an environmentally friendly way to sublimate sexual energy. One of these ways can be dance. The dance has its own strict rules and safe intimacy.
And dances are also a way to find "your man", perhaps the very one. You can feel it from the first touch and body contact. After all, it is impossible to please everyone and to approach everyone, and dance, like sex, is a space where the body and sensations will not be deceived. The main thing is to learn to listen to them. And trust.
Learning to pair dancing with your partner is to take your relationship from a steep dive to a new level of trust and sensuality. Breathe passion into the fading relationship of a married couple.
For pair dances, try popular social dances such as salsa, kizomba, bachata or Argentine tango.
Through dance, you can learn to recognize, express, be aware and experience your feelings. Observe yourself and your feelings, recognize yourself, understand and accept your body. Dancing is a source of energy and a way to cope with bad moods. When dancing, a person is distracted from daily worries, switches attention, relieves stress, and we express emotions accumulated in the body. One of the modern directions of contemporary dance, which appeared in Europe in the 1970s, may be suitable for this. It is based on the technique of improvisation. It combines movements from ballet, jazz and even yoga. Isadora Duncan, one of the founders of this trend, said that the main task of modern dance is "to learn to hear your inner voice and express it with the help of the body."
Relaxation and pleasure are all about what you need in sex, about what you allow yourself, and some continue to prohibit, even though they already had 2 husbands and three children. This is yours and ours - human sexuality. This is the vital energy of life and creativity, the energy of procreation and this is even more than the pleasure of bodily caresses or the explosion of orgasm. This is the energy to live, desire, feel life and give its continuation - something that is opposite to death, depression, boredom. This is the inspiration to engage in creation, not destruction.
In therapy with clients, I often notice how many women have forgotten how to think about themselves. About giving yourself love, care and joy in spite of all your imperfections - every living person has them. Think with your body. About your sexuality. Enjoy her and herself. And live in full force according to your desires. Realize yourself and your talents. Women have forgotten how to feel, trust, accept, allow themselves to relax, have sex and eat cakes for their pleasure.
The women have forgotten how to dance. Listen to yourself, your partner and stay close to the one whose impulses your body is responding to. And it doesn't matter if they are married or single - they have forgotten how to let go of control and, without doing everything myself, make it clear what you like and what you don't. Do not be afraid that he will reject you like that and leave. Not to be afraid of losing yourself in the arms of another, but on the contrary - every time to open yourself a new one, yourself through intimacy with your partner.
WHAT TO DO?
In general, there is very good news - we were all born with these abilities. And while not everyone has had the experience of being safe in childhood with their parents or with loved ones in their youth, there is an opportunity to regain these abilities through pair dancing. Even if you've never done pair dancing before, at any age. Or they came to study and even purchased a subscription, but after several classes, I wanted to run away as one of my clients, with whom we later discussed the issue of sexuality in therapy.
Remember if there have been situations in your recent experience when, while dancing with a colleague at a corporate party or in a club at a party with a new partner, you noticed tension in the body, tightness, shame, the desire to guess where the partner will lead, the desire to please him or, on the contrary, to take control of leading the dance into your own hands. Recall your feelings and try to sort them out with a psychoanalyst. In a safe environment, you can get to know your fears, live and leave forever in the past, turning them into a precious experience, get rid of your rakes and clamps in the sexual sphere.
Life is too short to live it in shame, fear and repression.
It's nice to watch women discover their inner beauty. When they begin to accept their body and understand their soul, become aware of their passion, allow themselves to love and hate with all their might, open their female sexuality and free themselves from iron chains and inhibitions in order to live in pleasure.
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