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Will does not exist by itself, it is a part of me and has its own object - actions. With the help of my will, I can get what I want. And it gives me freedom.
Volitional actions are influenced by relationships, situations, possible consequences of actions or other people's examples. For example, we raise our children the way our mother raised us, and we don't know anything else. But if we carry out such actions, is it our desire? Accordingly, we are dealing with several levels of freedom. Am I free if I do what others want or expect from me? We often do something for other people without analyzing it, not letting it pass through ourselves. But what do I want? The more Me in my choices, the more freedom and satisfaction I get.
The core of will is what is valuable to me or is defined by me as good. I cannot direct my efforts to something that does not matter to me. If I want something, I have a desire - this is a passive state. Only the will can make it active. Will helps me achieve what I want. But the main thing is that my goal should make sense to me. If I don't see the point, I won't be able to move towards the goal.
Conditions for the implementation of volitional actions:
1. I can do it.
2. It has value to me.
3. I like what I do.
4. It is in my interests and important to me.
5. I think it is right and I can afford to do it.
6. My actions make sense and will lead to something good.
I cannot create will. But I can influence her. I can feel the significance of a process or find my own meaning. I cannot want to want, I can only relate to myself and feel whether I really want it, or whether it is not my desire. My desires and volitional directions come from my inner deep essence. Real will is not control. On the contrary, real will is when I let go of myself and give the opportunity to listen to myself.
Let's move on to the technique of strengthening the will. For example, do you want to learn english? But you have a motivation problem.
First step. Finding why this is important to you. What are the benefits if you learn the language, what will you get from it? What are your ideas about this, what is the value in knowledge of English?
Second step. Understanding of how you stop yourself on the way to the goal. What bad will happen if you do this, what will you lose? Perhaps there are more important things that this will affect.
Third step. Research of own interest in this matter. Is learning English really valuable to you? What is your interest in this issue, what is fascinating? Because if this is not interesting for you and does not matter much, then this is violence against yourself, forcing yourself to do something that has only external value and has no internal significance for you. It is important what feelings the learning process evokes in me. I may be feeling ashamed or afraid. I'm afraid to be negatively assessed by others. How will the process change if only I, my opinions, feelings, experience participate in it? Were there any pleasant and important moments for me in the process, at what moments I enjoyed the learning process. I cannot strengthen my will if I cannot rely on positive experience.
Fourth step. Understanding the deep meaning of this action. Why am I doing this, what will I get in the end? What sense do I see in the process of learning and gaining knowledge?
Fifth step. The need for active action, training, small steps on the way to the goal. What can I do every day to achieve my goal? I plan my actions and put the plan into practice. I can set aside some specific time to achieve the goal. For example, from 8 to 10 am I only study English. And even if I cannot find the strength to really do it now, I do not take this time with anything else, I devote it to the English language in such a version that I am now capable of.
Will is the way to realize my values in life. And my senses are a tool with which I determine what exactly I want.
This was for me the lecture on the will of Alfried Langle, which took place on 08/31/17 in Kiev. I am sure that each of those present heard and singled out something of their own. I was glad to share my version.
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