2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A man's ability to act always arouses interest in such a man. Whether you agree with this or not
To be hard enough, it is not enough, sorry, to have eggs. You need the courage to go into the study of yourself and risk touching the most sick, creepy, sometimes creepy, places of your kid's soul. Only by knowing myself, I have a chance to know my woman. And not only his own.
One of my main direction vectors as men is to create and maintain structure and support. And in this you have to be quite firm. And firmness without flexibility is a dubious construct. So also alive. Alive and solid.
It is imperative for a man to be lively, flexible, compassionate and warm. And, at the same time, it must be firm.
Somewhere on the Internet, I met with an approximate formulation that a man should have as much hardness as his nature requires, in order, among other things, to be able to create that very support and so little so that he would not be hurt by this hardness surrounding. Homeostasis, so to speak, is our everything.
With all this, it is very important for me to allow myself to cry. In grief, powerlessness, loss. This is how I learn to live the pain. I, just like my wife, daughter, sister and mother, have every right to grieve for my loss. And it is important for me that my woman should accept me the same way. When I am respected, appreciated and allowed to be different, I respond in kind, at least.
In the case of a full-fledged experience of pain, even the most catastrophic event begins to lose its destructive power and a creative energy appears in order to live and move on. There are strengths, an opportunity and, most importantly, a desire to be a support for a woman and a child who are nearby. And not only for them.
If a man, for various reasons (for example, an introject that real boys don't cry) does not allow himself to live this pain, denies it, then sooner or later, you have to pay for it at an incredibly high price. And not only to him. Violence against oneself generates a huge amount of anger that needs to be put somewhere.
Resilience, Responsibility, Self-knowledge, Support, Tenderness, Compassion, Empathy
And, of course, toughness. This is about a man, from my point of view)
