2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The thesis that human destinies (for the most part) are formed (promoted, laid out) by our internal programs is unlikely to surprise anyone in our time, right? It is for this (including) that people turn to us, psychologists: what makes them play the same negative scenario or "slip" in solving similar problems - what are the psychological, mental schemes?
And yet, the healed paths of life to improve the internal algorithms every time lead to confusion: "This cannot be, just an accidental accident, because it does not happen - I don't believe it, that's it, that's all!" That's what my client exclaimed! At the stage of psychological hypothesis and the final phase of corrected results. But a confirmed fact is a fact … And facts are stubborn things - you can't argue! And this means that the assumption of internal, mental programs that promote external, physical roads is very appropriate … Believe it or not …
However, in order … So …
When a client (let's call her Julia) complained at one of the sessions about the protracted, stalled for several long years, unsolvable difficulties associated with large (but empty) investments in housing under construction, I involuntarily exclaimed: “Julia, let's look at this is from what position: can your investments in housing separate from your mother successfully advance with the problems of unsuccessful separation? We have just analyzed the following: your chronic illness was discovered by the first, serious parting with your mother; You still live in the same apartment with your parents; in relationships with men (in many respects) you promote your mother's (and not your own) scenario, and so on, and so on … Do you have permits inside you to receive housing separate from your mother? Based on the above, I would suggest the following: you do not let yourself go there …"
Yulia was genuinely indignant: “Yes, what are you talking about, Alena Viktorovna ?! And the rest of the equity holders, it turns out, are suffering because of me ?!"
“I don’t know about the others and I won’t undertake to speak! And about you, I can say for sure: your internal blocks burden the implementation. Fortunately, we are working with this. And other possibilities will open up for healing psychological algorithms - you'll see!"
On this we closed our dispute, but the skeptical client remained with her: "It doesn't happen!"
Nine months of therapy invisibly created a new scenario of life, but Julia and I became convinced of this a little later - by the birth of an improved map of a specific client world …
Having worked out the basic problems, we parted for a while … About 5 months passed and recently, the other day, I received a note of gratitude from Julia, in which the woman happily notes: everything has changed, which she persistently strived for, which she worked together, trying to improve in the psychological work with me. But the main thing that struck Yulia was the following: the construction of housing, which at the time of the story did not give any hope for further (the company went bankrupt, the money was not returned to the equity holders, the project was practically dying) unexpectedly "switched on", moved in and almost finished … About half a year ago, unfinished construction (how by a miracle) was overbought by a more successful company, cottage developments were completed and scheduled for early delivery … Miracle? Coincidence? Conjuncture? Call it what you want, but there is a dime a dozen of similar confirmations in every therapeutic story …
By the way: Yulia's separation at the end of therapy was successfully completed - both psychologically and practically: Yulia moved to a separate home, carrying out an autonomous, her own story, in accordance with her values, guidelines, choices, vectors … Is the girl open to accepting her own home ? Psychologically, with an inner readiness, resolution? Now completely and absolutely! This is confirmed by the fact of acquiring a long-awaited apartment …
An ordinary miracle! Healing the outer scenario by healing the inner one. Nothing special. Well, really! An obvious life algorithm!
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