Lazy Doesn't Exist

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

How does it not exist? But what about the calls to fight laziness? But what about motivational books with various tricks to overcome your laziness? All this is a big deception. What we call laziness is a state of no energy. It arises when the requirements that are made to us or we ourselves present to ourselves do not correspond to our true needs. And then, in order not to do what is not ours, we do nothing.

That is, laziness is essentially a signal that something has gone wrong. That what we force ourselves to do is not ours. One of the famous quotes by Steve Jobs, in my opinion, is about the same: “For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself:“If today is the last day of my life, would I like to do what I need to do today? " And if the answer is no for at least a few days, I understand that it's time to change something."

Therefore, laziness is not an enemy that needs to be fought, but a helper who can help us make our lives better. Instead of fighting, it's better to try to figure out what laziness signals. Sometimes what we call laziness is a signal that we need to rest, that we are tired of the race of life. The need for rest and doing nothing is a natural human need. Yes, from time to time, doing nothing is simply necessary. Only during complete idleness is there an understanding of what is happening in our life. Constant employment is especially harmful for children. In a child who is constantly busy, the development of the ability to reflect, to comprehend experience and the formation of connections between memories and current events will be impaired. There is even an opinion that in order to strengthen the mental health of a child, almost all childhood should be devoted to dreams and aimless games. Just keep in mind that playing on electronic gadgets is not about doing nothing, but just the opposite.

Sometimes a state of apathy and fatigue, which is mistaken for laziness, can be symptoms of the disease. It is worth contacting a doctor in order to exclude physiological reasons. But more often than not, it is a signal that what we are trying to force ourselves to do is not what we want. This is generally logical. Will someone be too lazy to do what they want. These are just mutually exclusive concepts. But there is an opinion that you need to do not what you want, but what you need to do, and if you do what you want, then it will not lead us to anything good. In this regard, I recall the "rules of life" of the famous showman from psychology Mikhail Labkovsky. The first rule is “do what you want”, the second rule is “don't do what you don’t want”. This sounds fantastic to a lot of people, but it's really something to strive for. In other words, it can be said as - live according to your needs, with your essence, and not according to someone else's instructions. This is the only way to live your own life, not someone else's.

I understand that someone will say: "if I start doing what I want now, I will lie on the couch, drink beer and watch the series, in the meantime I will be fired from my job and I will run out of money." Yes, it is very possible. But why is this happening? We don't even know what we want anymore. We were taught from childhood to do what we need to do. And when what needs to be done, then you can rest. And if you remove the "must", then only rest remains. And then everyone has a rest as best he can. We are not accustomed to acting in accordance with our desires, and we are not even accustomed to be aware of our desires. This is something that has to be learned all over again in therapy.