2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
A woman who dissolves into a relationship with a man. What is she like? A gray mouse with a bundle on its head, unable to say no, working on a boring job, or she is supported by a man and has no interests in life except him.
Oh no. Not today. She can be a very modern girl. Looks stylish, knows how to make money, has a bunch of hobbies so that there is almost no free time. She is interested in psychology and, of course, knows how important it is to be an independent person. She is constantly improving herself. Knows about the latest modern theories about relationships. She uses many of them to rationalize what happens in her personal life:
For example, thanks to the trend of polyamory (several loved ones at once), you can tolerate a second woman in a relationship. What's wrong with that? It's just that my beloved and I are very advanced, modern people who are not going to stupidly suppress attraction to others in themselves. It's so out of date … She herself can have lovers in order to keep up with modern theories.
She easily agrees to all or almost all experiments in sex, because her beloved carefully explained to her that the ban on something in sex is a psychological non-working out. And she's not like that, no. She is a very sophisticated independent person and that is why she easily goes to great lengths in sex.
She is not angry and does not make a scandal if her beloved suddenly disappears and does not get in touch for some time. She read that couples need to be apart from time to time, so it's time to pursue one of their hobbies.
For many years she has understood why he cannot marry her, enters into his position and tells herself that the institution of marriage is heading for disintegration.
She can have a busy, interesting life. And only obscure outbursts of irritation will lead to a consultation, because she is a modern girl and knows that going to psychologists is normal and even fashionable today. She will tell you that life is full of events, there is a loved one, happy modern relationships, but an incomprehensible irritation sometimes prevents you from enjoying it all. Moreover, the request will be: "How to remove outbursts of irritation so that life seems even more joyful?" And during the session there will be a question: "Do you have the right to establish rules in a relationship or is your choice only to reject or agree to its rules?" Then different things will climb. And tears too. And also the understanding that she is a good, diligent girl who knows how to play by the rules that are given to her: he and a society with modern theories. And the question of what and how she wants to, she did not ask herself. But from outbursts of irritation (suppressed aggression), it can be assumed that she does not like all the rules.
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