Visual Aid: How To Live A Life Without Regrets

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I'll tell you what steps to take. There are several excellent ways and methods for this. One of the important points in this process is natural visualization, i.e. on paper and honestly

Life balance wheel

So, let's draw the wheel of life balance. We divide the wheel into spheres that are somehow present in your life: family, work, health, appearance, self-realization - everything that comes to your mind, and everything that is today. The result should be a kind of "pie" of the spheres of life.

Each "piece" of the pie must be rated on a 10-point scale, that is, how satisfied you are in each area of your life. Look at this wheel and the degree of satisfaction, it is already very visual in itself.

Further, after your assessment on a ten-point scale, see which of the areas of life, if it had about 10 points, would be able to promote all your other areas to the maximum, i.e. which one would become the leading one?

Eisenhower Matrix

Now let's put aside our life balance wheel for now and use the Eisenhower matrix. Usually it is used for business, but it is also suitable for our purposes.

There are 4 squares in it:

• important-urgent,
• no matter urgent,
• important, not urgent,
• not urgently, not important.

Next, take the spheres from the wheel and arrange them along this quadrangle.

For example, work, in which square would you place it: important-urgent, unimportant-urgent, and where would the family go? That is, the task here is to distribute your spheres according to the corresponding squares of urgency and importance.

Next, look, the sphere that is most promoting, in which square is it now? Is it in the importance square? If at the first stage all areas were noted honestly, as it really is in life, then at this stage it should also be in the area of importance, if not, then there is a reason to speculate why this happened?

If, for example, at the first stage “work” became a promoting area, and at the second, it did not fall into the “important-urgent” or “important-non-urgent” square. Answer yourself to the question: is it important? And promoting?

The task is to choose the sphere that, according to your inner feelings, will fall into the promoting sphere and the important square in both stages.

According to this principle, usually in business, business people can correctly allocate their time and tasks.

Ideally, you need to live in the "important-not urgent" square, as this makes it possible to live at a comfortable pace and do important things.

If, for example, your “income” falls into the “important-not-urgent” square, you can easily take care of your family, or a hobby, or even look towards your own business, since a stable income allows you to move calmly in this direction.

But the "important-urgent" square makes you live in a constant "fire" and solve important problems at once, in a hurry. Here is the same “income”, if you fall into the “urgent-important” square, you do not have the opportunity for free decisions, you cannot choose a business to your liking, you need to choose a job that brings income, sometimes without pleasure.

You have already identified where your main sphere is, now you need to think about how to move it to the "important-not urgent" square. This will help you get the most out of your stay in this area, get full enjoyment, and take your time.

If your family is in the "important-urgent" square. What problem needs to be solved in the family so that it can move into the “important-not-urgent” comfort square?

If “health” is in the urgent square, what needs to be done in the near future and continue to do in the future so that it is also in the comfort square?

Dilts' pyramid of logical levels

It is also important to think about what is the very first step you can take so that your significant (promoting) area reaches 10 points, that is, to the maximum.

And, further, using the Dilts pyramid of logical levels take a look:

- how much can your environment and abilities help you with this?

- ask yourself, what actions should you take right tomorrow to move in this direction?

- if you do these actions, who will you feel yourself to be? How will you feel?

One last thing if you take this step:

- what will become then possible in your life? What will change?

- and when you understand what will change in your life, you will see what your attitude will be, who can you then become?

- What abilities will you have and how will your environment change?

When there is a feeling of dissatisfaction, there is no energy and motivation for action, very often this means that we are in the wrong place.

As practice has shown, not everyone understands this at once. Therefore, you should immediately use the visual tools described above in order to see the whole picture as it really is, and not sit in conjectures and suspicions.

The time of revaluation of values is something that sooner or later comes to everyone.