I Can Not Live Without This Person

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

To the question "how did you live before him?", The answer is often "my life was empty."

The classic job after breaking up an addicted relationship with addicts is to get to know oneself better.

Due to the lack of self-awareness of their hobbies, needs, goals, a dependent person very easily makes another person the center of his universe. When the center disappears somewhere, a feeling of emptiness arises.

The very emptiness, of course, is often a kind of "pill" for pain. In this case, the feeling of emptying can be a defense mechanism (dissociation, ignorance, etc.).

If you remove the "pain reliever", then you should definitely go through all 4 stages of living the loss … According to Vorden's concept, the process of experiencing the pain of loss lasts about a year.

During this time it follows:

1. Accept the loss. At this stage, a person, as a rule, hides under the protective mechanism of the psyche - denial.

2. Then you should allow yourself to feel pain from the end of the relationship. Often this stage causes complications by the fact that defense mechanisms are triggered in others who cannot withstand the experiences of a loved one who has left the relationship. However, parting is necessary to speak, cry. It is after this stage that "healthy" devastation can be experienced. Like getting rid of all the accumulated experiences and heavy emotions.

3. Reorganization of the general way of life. This stage requires a person to build a new way of life, taking into account all the circumstances. This stage is wonderful in that the present feeling of emptiness is the beginning, a blank sheet that a person can fill with anything. But in order for this reorganization to take place, you need to get to know yourself. You need to ask yourself questions as often as possible:

- What I feel?

- What food do I want to cook for myself today?

- What I like?

- What movie do I want to watch today?

- What do I want to do?

Etc.

The more you "get to know" yourself, the more self-awareness will come. Thus, a person will be able to achieve self-sufficiency.

4. A new attitude to the situation. This step can resemble reflection. This stage is the acceptance of the past as an experience and allows you to move on.

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