INTERACT WITH HAM

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

INTERACT WITH HAM.

How often do you meet a boor?

Disrespect and neglect hurts and affects self-esteem. Ham has long disappeared from sight, and negative emotions can torment you for a long time. And the smoldering light of resentment - stirs up the desire to respond in the same way, to offend, to take revenge.

But! In fact, rudeness is not directly related to you. Rudeness is, first of all, disrespect for oneself. And if a person does not respect, does not value himself, then he will treat others in the same way.

What to do if on your way you ran into a boor.

Try to understand the other. Of course, it is difficult, but you know the well-known saying "a dog is biting, only from the life of a dog." Understanding the reasons why a person has stooped so low to offend another will help not to take rudeness to heart. As I already wrote, they are rude from lack of self-respect, when they need to assert themselves.

Keep your distance, if you can not communicate with the boor, then it is better to move away from him.

Act unexpectedly. If you want to blame a person for inappropriate behavior, think about why you need it. And do not expect to be told in response: “Yes, I am rude, ill-mannered, thank you for helping me notice this. I promise that from now on I will always show respect both to you and to others."

❗️But it never hurts to set your own boundaries.

“I can see that you are unhappy with my behavior. Sorry."

You can use manipulation, for example:

"Can I help you somehow?"

So you will show that you are confident and will not be like a boor.

❗️ Useful phrases when interacting with boors:

We avoid conflict.

Show that you shouldn't interfere with your personal life. Even if a person is in a position higher than yours, there are still areas that do not concern him.

"On what basis are you asking me these questions?"

If you feel that the phrase has hurt, but do not understand what, ask:

"This statement?", "Is this an indication?"

"Is that a question?"

Help the boor to understand his behavior. That he / she is a hostage to his / her experiences and feelings. What do you understand his reception:

"What makes / made you tell me that?"

This technique works very well.

When communicating with uneducated people, use specific categories:

"Don't talk to me like that."

"Why are you addressing me in the third person, we are in the same room with you?"

If you use abstract phrases like:

"Stop acting rude" - the phrase reflects your subjective opinion. Ham will let her go

At the heart of any conflict is misunderstanding. Try to establish rapport, if possible, and rudeness will disappear by itself:

“What can I fix or change so that you don't be rude to me anymore?

"What can I do so that you don't have to be rude to me?"

Unfortunately, these days rudeness has become the norm. You may encounter rudeness in transport, in shops, at work, and even in your own family, people are rude to each other, joke in a bad way, and offend.

It is impossible to change another person. But if you change, the other person also changes. If habitual patterns of behavior do not work, we are forced to change them.

THEREFORE, IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE SOMETHING, ALWAYS START WITH YOURSELF!