2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
This witch is mother-in-law.
The topic of the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law comes up quite often. So who is this woman - mother-in-law?
After the wedding, many girls have the feeling that they are placed in competition with the husband's mother and that the husband does not seem to "belong" to his wife, he is somehow connected with his mother by some significant part of his being and this is so infuriating! Oh! How it infuriates a woman who has received a good mother's son as her husband. He is constantly trying to bring his mother and wife into a single whole, to establish good relations between them, but it does not work out in any way - the enmity between them is only growing. And often such a boy goes to his wife and reproaches her: well, why can't you make peace with my mother, you can't make friends. Oh! How infuriating it is! I wholeheartedly sympathize with these women, who received men who were not separated from their mothers as their husbands. A man who marries a woman is simply obliged to give up the dominance of the mother in his life. Everything! Now in his life the main woman is not his mother, but his wife.
Once upon a time, when my son grew up and he turned 16, he told me important words: "Mommy, now you are in second place in my life, and girls are now in first place. And you, Mommy, understand that now you are in first place. your husband, not me, I am now in second place with you. " What wise words my 16 year old son said. Every man should, if not aloud, then say these words to himself and act and live according to this formula: mom is in second place. But how many mothers of sons cannot give up this first place in the life of their son and are fighting for supremacy, competing with daughters-in-law, devaluing them, criticizing them, expressing dissatisfaction with them, and, thus, undermining the young family. How healthy aggression is needed here from a man who draws the line between his family and his mother and tells his mother the following: you cannot climb into my family, you cannot devalue my wife, and if for some reason, dear mother, you are to my wife you do not like it, but you do not like it, then you better not communicate. I am your son and I love you as a mother, but I will not allow you to interfere with my family.”Well, a mature man gives approximately such a message to his mother.
His mother should not be a cause for concern for his wife. He is obliged to resolve this conflict, to distinguish between communication, to show his two dear women that they are dear to him each in their role and not to try to make them friends. And to the mother of an adult son, advice: "Finally, take care of your husband, or get a lover if there is no husband, in general, switch your attention from your son to a man of your age."
(c) Yulia Latunenko
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