2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Line, line, edge, threshold, territory, frame and perimeter are words - synonyms for the word "border".
Their meaning is to inform people about the size, the right of ownership and who or what controls the territory, has the right to use and bears responsibility, risks and contains in the appropriate form.
This is all spelled out in laws, agreements or commitments. And such clarity helps us in life.
For example, a store works according to a certain schedule, there is a transport schedule, age is added evenly (that is, once a year, thank God), there is a calendar where it is clear when weekends, holidays and weekdays. By buying a ticket, you get the right to occupy a certain place in the transport. The work costs a certain amount, and so on.
In short, the boundaries can be divided into categories:
- territorial, - temporary, - corporal, - financial;
- psychological.
If the first four points can be material, that is, be recognized, determined, calculated, and to protect them we can turn to the appropriate services, for help and support, then the situation is more complicated with psychological boundaries.
In order to determine that your psychological boundaries are being violated, you need to have an understanding of whether you have a metaphorical "inner customs" inside you.
How does it work? Do you trust her? Is it figuring out who is "our", "stranger", "take a closer look" or "straight into the garden"?
How is your “internal customs officer” doing, keeping up, or is he so tired, confused and inexperienced that he raises the alarm only when the “customs” has already been smashed?
“Internal customs” can be started at any age, just as walls in a house allow you to be warm, comfortable and feel protected, and observance, respect for your psychological boundaries allows you to take care and love yourself a little more.
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