2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Mobbing (mob - crowd) - “bullying”, psychological pressure, pressure, moral violence and oppression by a group of persons of any person in a team. In order to inflict emotional, and sometimes physical harm, damage on this person.
In every collective or group of people, there are various psychological interactions, sympathies-antipathies … Someone can irritate someone, and sympathize with someone at the same time.
The manifestations of mobbing are akin to an aggressive attitude, which can be expressed in ignorance, direct or indirect emotional bullying, negative physical impact …
It is believed that the origins of mobbing are in the family. Where moral pressure is considered natural and almost all controversial issues are resolved from a position of strength, shouts, threats …
A child, like a sponge, absorbs the energy and "smell" of such relationships. And then, subsequently, he applies the acquired "skills", both in his future family (according to the scenario) and in social relations.
For a child overwhelmed by fear, guilt, shame, excessive internal tension and anxiety due to conflicts in the family cannot feel safe.
He needs to defend himself almost all the time … He is inwardly very scared. And in this sense, he is always ready for self-defense and his external behavior shows that "the best form of defense is attack" …
Such children “bully” others, conflict with them - and thus assert themselves, becoming, as it were, bolder and more self-confident. But in reality, it is bolder on the outside and more confused on the inside …
Where does this phenomenon manifest itself in society?
Mobbing, as a social phenomenon, almost always exists. Where people gather and there is an interpersonal relationship with each other.
It still starts in kindergarten, when a teacher, for example, shows her negative attitude towards a particular child. And, accordingly, pleasing her, other children continue to support her attitude …
They can denounce him, not play with him, try to offend him in every possible way and make him feel bad, hurt … So self-affirmation can develop at someone's expense: someone is bad - it means he is “weak”, and I - “strong”.
Later in school, this phenomenon continues to flourish "wildly."
If the teacher is indifferent to the psychological climate in the classroom, he is interested, first of all, only in a beautiful, safe outer picture-shell and "demonstrative" results of students, then mobbing develops, in this case, very actively. Striking the mental state of those students who fall under his blows.
After all, it is authoritative adults who set moral guidelines for children …
In such a case, the child in the classroom can be psychologically mocked, humiliated, insulted, distanced from him, not included in common affairs and simply not be friends with him … And make him guilty …
In this case, the child feels socially and psychologically isolated, lonely and rejected …
If such a phenomenon already exists in the classroom, then it must be "treated" urgently and immediately, while cultivating, at the same time, healthy, respectful and benevolent relationships between children.
It is the teacher's direct responsibility to maintain an emotionally comfortable environment in the classroom. Only in such a favorable environment do children have a desire to learn and learn something new.
And this quality is potentially inherent in every child by nature and you only need to support and direct him … And then, practically, any child will be able to learn with interest and a positive effect for him.
The negative impact of mobbing can negatively affect the child's personality, self-esteem and perception of himself in general, undermine faith in himself, his abilities and capabilities.
And even bring to a nervous breakdown and psychosomatic manifestations: withdrawal, depression, manifestation of addictive behavior: excessive passion for computers, games … Contribute to the emergence of destructive behavior.
Mobbing can be horizontal or vertical. Horizontal mobbing is when members of one team / group engage in psychological “bullying” of their colleague / fellow practitioner.
And vertical, when the leader / teacher humiliates and emotionally suppresses in every possible way the one who in any way depends on him - his subordinate / student.
And then it is appropriate to recall the wise saying: “the fish rots from the head,” that is, it is on the superior that the psychological climate in the team largely depends.
The reasons for the benefits of such a phenomenon for a leader can be different: from the principle of "divide and conquer" - to banal personal self-doubt. And testify to the presence of internal conflicts …
After all, it is easier to lead where everyone blindly obeys you, inform each other and carry out your unambiguous orders … than trying to understand the psychological reasons for certain contradictions that inevitably arise in collectives - places where people are united by some common cause.
It is easier to give orders than to negotiate and conduct a constructive dialogue with your subordinates. Sometimes this tactic is appropriate, perhaps.
But in general, if this takes place all the time, then a "sick psychological abscess" gradually appears in the team, which eventually infects and infects all participants in this process. And then there is no effective work - and the team gradually disintegrates …
But these are the "games" of the adult world, and since we all come from childhood, then the origins should be looked for there.
In a team of children, it is imperative to take into account the personal characteristics of each child and provide children with psychologically comfortable conditions for their development and learning.
Then the students will not just go to school with a desire, but with curiosity and interest to learn new things and learn what they can really and practically come in handy in life.
And later, with respect, warmth and gratitude, remember the "wonderful school years" …
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