Finding A Purpose In Life: The Sure Way

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The life stories of people who have remained in the memory of generations, or at least in the memory of a kind, differ from the life of everyone else in that these people left something behind. They left a trace. This means that their souls have provided themselves with a reliable channel of energy supply from the descendants who remember them. The ancients were well aware of this, who always strove not for wealth, but for glory.

The reason why people managed to gain a foothold in history is quite simple - they all had a purpose in life. Big enough to transcend human horizons. And it was the process of realizing this goal that provided them with spiritual immortality. But I must warn you that the goal of life is not cheap pleasure, it is only for someone who is sufficiently developed, brave and ambitious.

Why do you need a purpose in life

Before embarking on the search for your goal in life, you need to understand why you actually need this goal. Usually, no one seriously bothers himself with this question, getting off with abstract expressions about "the fullness of life", "finding meaning", "getting pleasure", etc. kind of husk and alien, imposed ideas.

Your purpose in life is your development tool. This is the best (and in fact the only) way to transform you from who you are now (and who you do not always and not quite like you) into the person you really want to be. Strong, free, whole, wise, successful, rich, popular, happy, etc. And you will definitely become like that, because it is impossible to achieve the goal without becoming such a person.

The main question is to clearly and clearly understand what exactly you want to become, since everything in this world has its price. You cannot be rich and not bear the responsibility and risks associated with the wealth you have. You cannot be strong and avoid competing with those who want to test you for strength. You cannot be free and cave in under public opinion, following other people's ideas, decisions, principles, philosophies.

Goal setting rules

Before proceeding to clarify and formulate your life goal, you need to understand the criteria that it must meet in order to be a guiding star, and not a petty dream or abstract fantasy. And these criteria are as follows.

Firstly, purpose in life should be lifelong … Only then can this goal be considered Great. After all, if you have set a goal for yourself and achieved it in a few years, then this goal is small. “Big” means that this goal goes beyond your personal interests and affects many other people. For example, to become the most famous singer (director, cook, writer, blogger, etc.), to discover a cure for cancer (although it has already been discovered, but not openly advertised) or to change the essence of the institution of marriage in a particular culture

Secondly, the goal must be specific … In other words, you must clearly understand (and desire) what real and clearly defined results, which are quite definite changes in reality, you want to get. 100 million views of your videos? Billion? Performing at a concert with 3 million spectators? Number 1 in the ranking of the most authoritative publications? More than a million citations?

The unconscious is always guided by a specific picture. Simply because the unconscious generally focuses mainly on pictures. And if instead of specific characteristics you have a set of abstract wishes, then your goal is not realized. Because you just didn't want to take responsibility for it.

Thirdly, the goal must be adequate … Hegel, being the greatest mind, could allow, in response to the remark that his theory does not agree with the facts, say: "So much the worse for the facts."In your case, this trick will not work. Much is available to man, but not everything. Walking through walls, flying into the past, establishing real democracy in Russia, flying through the air with the power of thought, finding an ideal wife / ideal husband - these are all from the realm of fantasy, not reality. An adequate goal is in accordance with physical and social laws.

Fourth, the target must be visible … In other words, you must see before your eyes the reality that will come when the goal is achieved. See as if you are watching a movie about your life. For example, to see the most popular band playing a song you wrote, or to see that a book you wrote has been downloaded more than two million times. It is even better if you can, even at a minimal level, but experience the effects that this goal will generate when embodied - to rejoice when you see how your song is played.

Fifth, the goal should be focused on the development of life … That is, the positive results of achieving the goal must be global, and negative - if they cannot be avoided -

local. If your goal leads to the fact that you receive local bonuses, and other people, as a result, become dull and become even more infantile (a global negative effect), then instead of real development you will get in trouble in your life.

Only by relying on these rules is it possible to set a work goal for yourself, which will be synchronized both with your true desires, values and needs, and with the interests of the higher order systems of which you are a part.

Typical mistakes

The goal is not yours. It often happens that under the influence of parents, or another authority, or trying to “prove to all of them,” a person sets himself a goal that he does not really need. And upon reaching which he does not receive satisfaction. For example, he gets unnecessary education. Or get a job that he doesn't like. Or he creates a family "so that the parents are happy." Buys a car, "so that like everyone else." Builds a house "to be respected and envied." Etc.

Achieving such goals takes a lot of time and vitality. The very process of achieving them develops a person weakly or does not develop at all. And as a result, the person becomes even more unhappy than he was before.

The goal is contrived. Or, in other words, the goal comes from the mind, and not from the soul (true desires or aspirations). For example, you decided to become a billionaire, fly to Mars or create "USSR 2.0". I do not argue that the goals are ambitious, but far from reality and can be safely attributed to the category of erotic fantasies. The reason for this is infantilism. After all, as a child, a child believed that everything was "within his reach", he had only to snap his finger on his finger and wow! his fantasy came true. This is usually what happens on a computer screen. But in real (adult) life, such a trick will not work.

A goal is a project to which you are ready to fully devote yourself and your life (not necessarily 100%, but so that all areas of your life are formed through the prism of the goal). A serious project, and not another (albeit difficult) mission in a computer game that you go through in between entertainment and household chores.

Priority error. The man wanted freedom, but for some reason he understood it in such a way that for this he needed a lot of money. As a result, reaching the monetary goal, he lost even more freedom and became a hostage of the schemes, circumstances and interest groups created by him, which left him only one opportunity to get out of this game - feet first.

The goal requires the sacrifice of self-interest. There is a category of people who are ready to sacrifice everything they have for the sake of achieving a goal from which they will have absolutely nothing. These people are fanatics. And any fanatic is a paranoid, fixated on some "fix idea". It is clear that the paranoid can get his own, that his life is happy and full at the same time can hardly be called.

Your goal should ignite you. That is, you must feel a strong and deep need to move towards this goal at all costs, so that it does not happen in your life. If this feeling is not there, then you have made one of the above mistakes or set your goal incorrectly.

How not to "miss" your goal

There are many ways to clarify your life purpose.

For 55 minutes, you can write on a piece of paper the first thing that comes to mind in response to the question "What do I want to achieve in life?" Then, at some point, in my head the understanding “yes, there she is! My goal!". Or it will not "flare up".

You can write down what you consider your goal for 7 days every day, and on the eighth, review all your records, select the TOP-10 and remove from it those goals for the implementation of which you are not going to do anything in the coming weeks. And from what remains to choose your Main life goal.

Every night before going to bed, you can read aloud or silently the question "What is my purpose in life?" and wait for the unconscious in a dream to give an answer to the question you are looking for. And in the morning, write down everything that happened at night, analyze and, on the basis of this, formulate your goal.

But there is one small problem about which none of those who write about finding their goal writes. I suspect they just do not know about it. The fact is that all civilized people (with the exception of those who are brought up in an aristocratic environment) in the process of cultural socialization are completely blocked by the instinct of power. He is the instinct of creative self-realization. Thanks to this instinct, ambitious goals are set and achieved.

And since the instinct of power is almost 100% blocked (this is done so that you are a manageable and useful "normal" member of society), then between your goal in life and you there is an invisible, but almost insurmountable barrier. An obstacle that can prevent you from seeing your goal. And even if you see it, you will not be able to start implementing it due to the fact that fears and doubts will turn out to be stronger than the energy of your blocked instinct of power-creativity.

There is a way out of this situation. You need to unblock your desire for creative transformation of the world (that is, the power instinct) by at least 1%. Then a huge energy will be released, which is now being spent 24 hours a day, 365 days a year on maintaining unconscious inhibitions. And you will use this energy (10 times higher than your current energy level) to achieve your goal, which, moreover, you can clearly and clearly see and feel.

I suggest you go through the unblocking of your power instinct and the process of finding your life goal in the framework of the “Building a New Life” coaching program. This is the most reliable way and a great opportunity to draw a bold line between the life you are living now and the life that you will start after completing the program. Initial (introductory) consultation is free.

So no aimless life is enough. It's time to really develop!