Technique "I Don't Like"

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I want to tell you how I work with some difficult clients and with myself when I don't know what to do right.

If the client has at least some goal, and he is completely loaded with work, affairs, and he has a favorite pastime, consider yourself lucky.

I was also lucky as a psychologist and as a person with a very serious medical diagnosis, because I have absolutely no time to get bored or indulge in despondency:

• Full recording on weekdays - from morning to evening I work with clients
• I am constantly studying at different courses, increasing my expertise
• I am writing a dissertation on the sly

I am telling this, not to show "what a fine fellow I am," but to once again prove the effectiveness of this approach.

The most difficult client is the client who has nothing to keep himself busy!

Help him find something to do. And it doesn't matter what he or she does - writing a dissertation or growing flowers or embroidering with a cross, the main thing is that a person is interested in living while he solves a problem that seems to him to be the main one

It is very difficult to become happier if you are not aware of interfering with it!

If a person does not know at all what he is interested in, try to go from the opposite, find out what he is NOT interested in and what he does NOT like

So the exercise:

Technique "I don't like"

1. If your client is still young and not familiar with the work of Vladimir Vysotsky, let him listen to this song
2. Ask the client to write as much as possible of what he dislikes (usually I ask to write no fewer words and concepts than the client is years old)
3. When a person writes, you can ask him to read the list and ask: “And what is connected with. Why don't you like winter? "," Why football didn't please you?"
4. Then you can fill in the following plate:

• As a homework assignment, you can give the client a paradoxical prescription: draw or sculpt something that he does not particularly like
• If it is about an action, you can simply execute it. For example, I hate physical education and when I need to work with my feelings, I take and do exercises.
• If this is something more abstract, as in Vladimir Semyonovich about the boundaries: "When they climb into my soul," you can give a paradoxical instruction to run into it or do it yourself

What does all this give?

The realization that, as opposed to a person, is really interesting.

When the client realizes everything that he does not like, you can ask him to come up with something that he or she could replace it by changing the "minus" to "plus".

For example, I came to the understanding that I sit down to write something when I put off something unpleasant for later.

And remote work = private practice came into my life when I realized how infuriating it is to ride the subway every day at rush hour.

When you manage to lead the client to what he loves, then the hobby is already at hand!

And when there is interest, it is easier to build a plan for the future.