5 Signs That You Are Loved

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

1. The first and most important sign is a person's high interest in you, and you see and feel it, do not invent it. He spends quite a lot of time with you, even despite the deep workload at work and work stress, he finds time to meet, call or answer an SMS. How often do you need to meet with a person to understand his interest? It all depends on the whole situation and on you. For some, finding a window in the work schedule once a week is already a lot, but on the other hand, we can say that a potential partner avoids you. However, such nuances need to be assessed depending on the partner's workload (for example, he tries, puts things in order in his affairs, postponing non-urgent work visits and meetings with friends and trying to spend any free minute with you).

In addition, do not forget to take into account the type of character of the person. If this is a schizoid, communication will be at the minimum level, but even in this case, the person will strive to talk to you, meet, etc. Clearly separate the two concepts - to choose myself now or my partner. Sometimes women don't understand why a partner wants to spend time with friends or just be alone. Men are also not always able to explain what is happening to them, and why at the moment they do not want to communicate. Basically, such situations are episodic, but you still need to evaluate their frequency (1-2 times a month - acceptable; more often it can mean that the person was not really interested in you, and “there was no chemical reaction between you”).

1. A person is open towards you, sincere, can share quite deep emotions and experiences, vulnerable (depending on the stage of your relationship). If this happens on the first date, we can say that the person is prone to adjective behavior, to codependency. Such a situation is also possible - initially a person is codependent, and then begins to behave like a counterdependent. If you see that a person trusts you enough, do not forget to take into account the type of character in the zone of talkativeness and sincerity. For example, schizoids are not very talkative personalities, and narcissists do not know how to be sincere and vulnerable, therefore they will not show you these feelings, because they are unfamiliar to them. However, in general, you will see that the person seeks to tell you a lot about himself, listens carefully and remembers everything that you say to him.
2. The person is interested in what you are saying and supports you in important moments for you (goals, development, etc.). The partner is interested in your development, he wants your circle of contacts to expand, other resources appear in life, you feel more satisfaction from life, you learned something, sought to find a job better and to be realized as much as possible, so he will support you in every possible way in this (verbally or actions - depending on the love language of the partner). For example, a man can financially support, and a woman can bring food to work so that a partner does not waste his energy, money and time. Thus, a person cares about you, your needs and desires, and this is a great indicator of his love. However, do not expect that you owe something!

In addition, a partner can protect you from mistakes and rash actions, in which case there is a slightly ambiguous feeling, and it is important to observe the next point.

1. The person does not remind you of your mistakes, does not humiliate or devalue you and your path, does not offend. For example, you realize that your subsequent actions can lead to failure or error, those around you warn. How does the partner act in this situation? Yes, he warns you, but at the same time he does not persistently convince you to make a decision on your own. If a partner is in love and has warm feelings, he, relatively speaking, lets you go, does not press, does not offend ("I told you so! And you never listen to me!"). In other words, his ego should be slightly in the background in relation to yours, and the person is not trying to realize his ambitions through you. This moment is the most important one.

2. The person respects your boundaries, your no and don't want to. If a partner loves, he knows how to let go. Here the flow does not mean that he does not care when you return to him, and indeed whether you return at all, whether you write a message. In general, both partners should show initiative in the same way (today you called first, tomorrow he, etc.). If you have doubts about your partner's love, try calculating "points" during the week ("I wrote first, did he write back?", "Did he invite me to a meeting?", Etc.). An important point - you can confuse shyness and uncertainty with coldness. If we talk about women, they try to show their pride in such behavior, but here you need to understand that even a cold woman, upon meeting her man, will thaw out, and this is felt in the dynamics of the relationship. For example, in the first month of your acquaintance, you see each other once a week, but over time you start communicating and texting more often, respectively, and meetings become more frequent. After a while, there may be a period of decline in the relationship - you are tired of each other, so you should be loyal to such a situation. Keep everyone in their own world, do not forget that you do not need to completely fixate on your partner. Your life shouldn't revolve around one person. If the relationship begins to decline, take up your hobby, tighten up your work, read, listen to interesting videos, pay attention to your development - distract your brain, then you will more easily survive the wait. Perhaps you and your partner have different levels of endurance - someone can see a person 24/7 all the time, someone for only a week or a month, and then you need a few days of rest.

An important point is to discuss your doubts with your partner (at least by phone, and preferably at a meeting). If you look at a person, you will see his reaction. To the direct question "Do you like me?" he can hesitate, then what kind of conversations can we talk about further? Yes, it is unpleasant for us to admit that the partner's attitude does not correspond to our expectations and merit. However, it is easier to admit it and move on than to suffer all your life (or over many years) in a devaluing relationship in which you are of low importance to another person.

Don't expect your partner to change! Everything is visible in the first year of the relationship. Often, if the couple has not formalized the relationship during this period, in 90% of cases, the matter will not reach marriage. Due to the high hormonal surges, it is in the first year of the relationship that all important and significant decisions are made for the couple. Then the partners begin to rub against each other and go through the stages of the development of love, frequent situations of dissatisfaction, clarification of relations, attempts to change the partner. Closer to 5-7 years of relationship, the situation evens out.