2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
1 way - go through the fear of being disappointed in parents and find out the truth about them
There is only one truth about parents - they will never be the same as you fantasized about them. If parents are cold or rejecting, they will never be warm and supportive. If depreciating and cruel, they will never become kind and understanding. They do not know how to be like that and they do not need to go to trainings or to. This is not their task - personal growth and development is your task. For this, the generic system gave you such parents so that it became so painful and unbearable that you, having lost faith and despair, went to look for your own path, changing the quality of your life along the way, taking better and more for yourself, learning to use all the chances and opportunities from life …
Method 2 - go through the fear of insight and self-knowledge
The truth about ourselves is the same - we are all an extension of our parents, even their will can continue in us, their desires and goals. Their rejection, cruelty and devaluation too. When a person convinces himself, “I am not like mom or dad,” it means only one thing - he excludes a part of himself. How will it end? Self-destruction program. This is also a choice. But agreeing that "I am an extension of my parents" releases energy and focus of attention, which is quite enough to increase the effectiveness of your own life.
3 way - go through the fear of separating from parents, their hopes, desires and fantasies
There is only one truth - either a person lives his own life or someone else's. To do what the parents do not like, but like oneself, to withstand their condemnation, to choose and to act withstanding the guilt that “as if you are betraying” is courage. This is a quality that you can pump, develop, strengthen in yourself, in the end, rely on it. Does Courage Affect Quality of Life? Definitely!
Does it make sense to suffer for years in a relationship with your parents? Or even decades? To prove something to them, to convince them of something? Should we expect them to change, become better or kinder? Realize that they are wrong in front of you, ask for forgiveness?
Often this chronic suffering arises from a lack of knowledge about oneself, about what is included, what attitudes and prohibitions I live by.
Parents are not just authoritative, but the most influential people for each of us. Even if they are alcoholics or have died long ago or are homeless or they have schizophrenia.
If you do not agree with this, then you are in struggle and protest. This means that parental scenarios within you grow stronger and further destroy your destiny. A person falls into a state of sacrifice, energy leaves, resources and opportunities dry up. The fear of seeing and admitting that a parent's opinion or mood could once have determined your entire day or choice or action only exacerbates the sacrificial state.
How is parental destructive influence transformed into support and strength? Through the recognition of their influence on themselves, through their own path and the implementation of their tasks.
DON'T MANIFEST, one of the 12 parental attitudes that a person can carry inside himself to the very end, never knowing about it, never going through his path, and never realizing his tasks.
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