2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What is "your person", how do you make a choice, on what basis? Own person is a rather broad concept, it can also be about choosing a partner for close relationships, about friends or about a social circle. I would like to narrow the question down to the choice of specialists in helping professions. How do you choose a psychologist, doctor, hairdresser, etc.?
How do people know if they are “friend” or “alien” next to them? This decision passes through consciousness to a small extent, more often it consists of vague sensations, but usually a different, unusual, “other” person is perceived by us as “alien”, and similar, “as we” seems to us to be “ours”.
For me, this choice is associated with awareness of my own needs, prioritization: what is important and what I consider secondary. Now the choice of specialists takes a little time, worked out almost to the point of automatism) I can make a forecast of how successfully we will "work together" by talking and asking questions. Priority points:
one). Professionalism
2). Mindfulness (takes my personality into account)
3). Flexibility (listens to my wishes, does not impose his vision)
The first point for me is probably the most understandable - this is about the ability to effectively perform complex work (about skills, abilities and experience).
But the second point is not so obvious. For example, I am distinguished by my sensibility; when choosing a psychotherapist, it was important for me that the person does not convince me that this is not the case, but helps me learn how to deal with it.
My manicurist immediately noticed that "the blood vessels are close to the cuticle", so now I do not experience any unpleasant sensations during the procedure. The previous masters ignored my requests (or did not know how to rebuild), only wondering why I frown, because "it can't be painful," as a result, the fingers healed for several days. Naturally, a visit to such a master was one-time.
The third point: I have my own style, a way of expressing myself, which I would not want to completely change. This was important when working, for example, with a marketer.
As a result, the more I listen to myself, the better I am in contact with my needs, the easier it is for me to communicate with people and find comfortable interaction.
