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# Almost fictional story 1
Lysik
Lysik is a girl who was less than 6 years old. In fact, her name was Maria. This is what her grandfather wanted. Mom and Dad did not mind, so this name remained with her.
And she began to call herself bald. Due to the fact that she had almost no hair on her head. They didn't grow. Or rather, they grew, and then fell out … and for some time they were almost not on the head. There was a gentle, soft fluff. Like babies.
Well, Maria was no longer a baby, but a girl and she really wanted her to have beautiful, long, fluffy hair. Like her favorite doll - Alice, which her grandfather gave her for her birthday.
But the hair on her head was "naughty" and did not want to grow and be obedient.
Why this all happened was not clear to anyone. They tried to heal Maria in different ways. But all did not help. The doctors shrugged their shoulders.
We tried various medications, carried out therapeutic therapy with innovations, and the result was - no. Well, for a while it seemed to get better, and then again the hair fell out.
And Maria again became Bald. At the same time, her internal state and mood also changed. She became very capricious, in her own way aggressive, anxious, hysterical … She quickly got tired and showed a lot of anger.
The parents wanted to prepare their girl for adulthood. Go to school. And they hired different tutors for her.
One of them "sculpted" from Maria in her incomplete 5 years almost ready-made student of the 1st grade. By the way, Maria had remarkable intellectual abilities, nevertheless, for her age.
She was a very patient child, diligent and attentive. Mom told her that if she studies well, her hair will grow and she will become the most beautiful girl in the world.
Maria tried very hard. The teacher too. After all, the exponential result was important to her. To show that her student is good at reading, writing and counting. Then the parents would be satisfied with her work and would turn to her again.
As Maria mastered the skills of writing, reading and counting, a large amount of internal fatigue, tension and fatigue grew …
She had little of childish mischief, spontaneous curiosity, gaiety, sparkling joy inherent in her age. On the contrary, in her eyes the state of an adult, “exhausted” by life, was read.
The time came when, immediately after the training sessions with Maria, from strong internal tension, hysterics began to appear. The girl just fell to the floor, started crying, screaming, getting angry, throwing various objects.
As if the suppressed aggression was no longer able to accumulate and she was not controlling herself - she was pouring it out. And then it calmed down, like a bird with a broken wing … Impulsively twitching its childish hand-wings.
The parents consulted and decided at the family council that it was necessary to change the teacher. Yes, their girl read, wrote and counted excellently. Take her and send her to first grade.
But the trouble is - psychologically she could not completely cope with her emotions! She was not ready and did not mature psychologically, for the school and its requirements.
Due to the fact that she was sick, she never went to the kindergarten. I could not find a "common language" with other children. And because of her external "defects" some children considered her a "black sheep." And Maria herself behaved very insecurely with them, was shy, ashamed of her "ugliness" …
The children did not want to be friends with a strange girl who had no hair on her head and who was mostly silent in their presence, almost did not participate in games, was sad, sad.
Parents were pleased to "brag" to other acquaintances that their girl is intellectually ahead of many children in her development. They spared no expense for this.
But they were, nevertheless, ashamed of the fact that their girl was somehow “special” in comparison with other children. She really stood out among her peers.
Mom began to read a lot of all kinds of literature on psychological topics. And she came to the conclusion that her girl needs a teacher not just an ordinary one, but with a psychological education and experience.
Such a teacher was found through acquaintances, “on a sundress,” so to speak.
This teacher proposed a new methodology for the development of her child. It was an integrated approach - intellectual pursuits alternated with creative ones. Moreover, the emphasis was on creativity, play. It was said that the child learns the world and it is easier for him to learn precisely through the play form.
In this form, there is acceptance of the child, his various sensory manifestations: joy, delight, resentment, anger, aggression, irritation, surprise …
Just what in many families, and in particular in the family of little Mary, it was impossible to express in a childish form acceptable to her. And there was a ban on the expression of "negative" feelings: anger, resentment, aggression …
When a new teacher with a difficult for Maria "name" - Elizaveta Kirillovna appeared before her childhood eyes, she had many mixed feelings. Of course, there was a lot of children's inexhaustible natural curiosity for everything new and at the same time there was a decently uncontrollable anxiety.
Who is this new and unusual person? What will she be taught now and forced to do many times what is so difficult for her.
There was also a fear of punishment. Parents could get angry and punish for their "negligent" attitude to school.
But surprisingly, everything began to happen somehow differently from what it had done before during the training sessions. It was easy, interesting, and most importantly, fun with Liza (this is how the girl began to call the teacher to herself)! With her one could laugh, rejoice, be upset, sad and show various emotions that she understood …
This made it easier for Mary to learn, and indeed to live. All fears somehow "magically" dissolved. The girl became more confident in herself, which means she was happier.
And yet the most important "miracle" began to occur. Maria's hair began to grow back! They were not quite long yet, but it was quite possible to tie various ponytails and "twist" various hairstyles …
The girl now always had one of her drawings on the table. It was a girl with beautiful, lush "golden" hair. She smiled happily and looked very cheerful. And around her there was a lot of positive and pleasant things … On the whole, the drawing radiated a joyful dream.
Maria drew this drawing at one of the lessons with Lisa. She presented herself as she portrayed herself in the picture. And when she looked at the newly created herself, she always felt good and light in her soul from the fact that changes are possible. And she can become exactly what she painted herself.
Of course, while studying with Lisa, Maria also continued to study counting, writing and reading. But most of all it was creative, easy, and therefore interesting for the child. There was a lot of sculpting of various animals, fruits, vegetables, drawing with plasticine on paper (a special relaxing technique), drawing characters from fairy tales, stories invented by Maria herself, colorful applications and handicrafts, art tasks for "splashing" difficult feelings and emotions …
The inner world of the girl through the game and the presence in her life of a person who understood and felt her - came to life. After all, Maria acquired not only her beloved teacher, but also a friend with whom she could freely share all that worried and disturbed her.
From this, Maria became confident in her soul that the world around her was not as terrible as it seemed to her from childhood. That there are many amazing and interesting things in the world. And the girl began to feel better in general, both physically and emotionally.
The warmth and unconditional support that she received from Liza's creative activities helped her to heal. And get well …
In addition, art classes were able to "hone" her sensitivity, "awaken" her creativity and reveal her potential.
When Maria went to school, it was interesting and easy for her to study. She became much more confident in herself. Almost stopped hurting. I learned to be friends and play with other children, and enjoy it. She became more open and not as vulnerable as before.
In parallel, while the girl was in school, she was also engaged in creative pursuits, thus developing and maintaining her emotional and sensual sphere. These were, depending on age: dancing, drawing, acting, and singing (singing) …
Thus, the girl received a comprehensive development, where, along with the development of intellectual abilities, her creative abilities and emotional intelligence were actively developed, which expanded her communication capabilities.
Years passed … Maria became a successful young woman, a business woman. She received an excellent education in the field of hairdressing. And she opened a network of her beauty salons.
But on her desk there is still a small photo-drawing of a girl with golden hair … This became her talisman, and once - an impulse for a lot of inner work on herself, a meeting with the wonderful world of beauty and creativity that saved her children's world …
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