2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If you go to an analytically oriented psychologist, he will never hide the fact that therapy takes a long time. This is not a secret or a surprise. But is it possible "faster"? Can. For this, one very important rule must be observed. You need to say absolutely everything that comes into your head, without embarrassment or keeping silent. And yet, it is advisable not to deviate from the request and speak from session to session about the topic with which they came to work.
And now about why this is impossible:-)
Everyone knows that a psychologist's office is the place where it is customary to say everything that comes to mind, because you pay money for it in the end. And now let's imagine that from meeting to meeting, the thought revolves in your head that the psychologist is bored with you, that he can hardly tolerate you, and in general, the whole session is thinking about something of his own.
Or here's another - you noticed some kind of stain on the wall of the office and no matter how hard you try, you can only think about this stain. Not every person is able to freely talk about such things when it is necessary to sit and intelligently talk about their problem. Here either the peculiarities of temperament are needed, or rather long-term work and trust in the therapist.
And then the day will happen when you find yourself in a terrible traffic jam or become a participant in a scandal in public transport. And instead of talking about your request (as it should be), you will talk about roads, strangers and how you don’t like to be late.
And then you suddenly fall in love. And decide that you do not actually have any problems, but by inertia continue to go to the therapist, forgetting about the root cause of the appeal.
And here's what. You are a progressive person, familiar with various psychological literature and are convinced that there is absolutely no need to dig in your office. In the sense that you are not going to discuss your childhood and blame your mother for life's failures. Because neurosciences do not find any moms in synapses, and Freud has long gone out of fashion. But for some reason, the psychologist you came to strangely changes his hairstyle, buys a new dress and begins to terribly remind you of that very mother. And also these intonations in the voice … As if you are being taught. Or criticized. But the original problem has not yet been resolved and you endure this cartoon story from Prostokvashino, when your mother is shown here and there, and the solution to the problem, meanwhile, stands still. Because you are silent and drive away from yourself thoughts about the similarity of a psychologist and a mother. You can also run away from such a psychologist and go to another. Start over again. Walk around for a couple more months and be surprised to find that now, in front of you is a spitting image of dad. And further in a circle, and the duration of therapy, meanwhile, increases and increases.
Something less fun might happen. During quick therapy, with a request for minor work troubles, your grandmother dies. And you loved her very much and she practically raised you, and naturally you enter a period of mourning. And then, for some reason, depression. And now you are not at all interested in minor problems at work, the increase in salary seems to be a trifle against the background of losses, and the word "self-realization" generally sounds like the knock of empty plywood on glass. And you begin with a psychologist to collect your I again, living through this difficult stage, while your friends recommend that you quit walking around charlatans who have been taking money from you for years.
Anything can happen. Good events, sad, chaotic and strictly planned by other people, but not by you.
And now you have been in therapy for a year. Or two, three.
And from the point of view of plans for accelerated therapy - all these delays and unplanned falling in love are worthless. And from the point of view of your personal transformation process - this is exactly what needs and is important to discuss, bring into contact with the therapist and understand. Because it is precisely thanks to spontaneity, and the opportunity in this spontaneity to "live" with the therapist that truly important and profound changes take place.
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