2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The victim is always unhappy with everything, and even when everything is fine in her life, she will find a reason to be upset (she will watch the news where everyone is dying from the virus, or a TV series about Chikatilo, and what a thin system of investigation in our country, etc.)
The bottom line is that the victim must always maintain a certain internal balance of "hormones of sacrifice." Maintain energies at a low level, preventing them from breaking out into an elevated tone, which is unusual for the victim (how cool everything is, how well everything goes, the mood is wonderful, and you can also walk in the rain).
The victim always looks to blame for everything, or makes himself guilty of something, depending on the situation and context. We live poorly - this government has plundered everything, it is because of it that I now have such a disgusting mood, doctors cannot cure it - we have no education at all, and only "non-Russians" work in the clinics.
The victim always thinks that she is unworthy of something, that I will “blast” everything, that no one shares anything for nothing, and generally free cheese is only in a mousetrap.
The weather necessarily affects the well-being of the victim, and generally spoils the mood. After all, the victim is usually not responsible for his mood. Her happiness, calmness and mood always depend on some external factors and other people.
The victim is always at the mercy of external factors, external circumstances, the mood of other people. One gets the impression that the victim does not affect anything in his life, the victim only reacts.
A frequent reaction of the victim is to be offended, so this reaction is poured into the victim's blood that the victim herself does not even notice it. And when someone takes offense at her, he is perplexed, believing that she is exactly the same trait as resentment does not possess.
This is the essence of sacrifice - to react, not to choose
What does it mean to choose?
This means accepting responsibility for yourself, namely: for your reactions, for your thoughts, for your actions, for your words.
Understand that a person can only be responsible for himself to himself.
To understand that it was not you who were offended, but that you chose to be offended, you chose this reaction. You are also responsible to choose any reaction in the moment.
Choice of reactions is a reality and an opportunity if a person controls his thoughts
Victims, as a rule, do not understand what it means to control their thoughts, but this is just a skill that can be developed by practice, stopping yourself in the moment and asking yourself the question: what do I want now, and how do I want to feel now, and what thoughts am I want to think?
And already based on the answers to make a conscious choice of reaction.
Often the victim uses the expression "but everyone does it", "but everyone does it." Just ask yourself a question, do I know everyone at all? Do I know all people on Earth ?. All people are different, everyone lives in different ways and the reality is confirmation of this, there are no two identical people, life scenarios, and even the left side of the face is different from the right.
Until the victim is able to realize that she has a choice of her reactions, she will never see another reality. Until the victim learns to control his thoughts and redirect their course at any point, he will not see another reality.
People get used to thinking in a certain way, these thoughts build their neural connections, and until a new thought seeps into the victim's mind, until the victim admits it … she will remain a victim.
And the thought is simple - I can choose everything in my life
I can choose what to think.
I can choose how to feel.
I can choose the reality I want to live in.
To be a victim or not to be is also just a choice.
And everyone chooses for himself, to be a victim of circumstances, weather or the mood of other people, or to become the Creator of his reality and consciously choose thoughts about this very reality, to learn to unfold any event for himself in a plus, fortunately or a point of growth. It is possible!
Thoughts shape our reality, so what happens to you today is the result of your yesterday's thoughts. If you do not control your thought process, then life seems to be chaos, that something is always happening on which you supposedly cannot influence in any way. There are things that we cannot influence, but there are not so many of them in life, because the main thing that you can - is to influence your thoughts, reactions, moods, regardless of what is happening outside.
The victim, if he is happy, is a kind of momentary feeling, and any external nuance: illness, stepped on his foot, it rained, etc., can deprive the victim of happiness.
Happiness is the highest degree of self-satisfaction in the moment, regardless of the external scenery. And more on that in the next article …
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